Often wonder whether you’ll be a “chill mom” or an obsessive compulsive stress-ball? Or if you’ll sleep train early and let them cry their lungs out or nurse on-demand and co-sleep ’til puberty? While we all think we’re the masters of our own parenting styles, our most fundamental parenting archetype might already be written in the stars.

So from free-spirited Libras to the dreamiest of Pisces, here’s our handy astrological guide detailing what kind of parent you’ll be depending on your sign, and how you can best use your natural parenting style for good. And while nothing’s ever set in stone, you can pretty much count on a Virgo to manage the school fundraiser and a Leo to manage the playlist at the after party….

You’re a natural born leader, which means your kiddos will always know who’s in charge of any situation. You’ll guide them through all of life’s hurdles – from a nightmare to a failed test to a flat tire en route to grandma’s – with optimism and grace. But, where there’s the confident Aries, there’s always the bull lurking behind. Mind your short temper and stubborn point of view, because quite frankly, there’s no arguing with your 16-year-old daughter on her period.

You’re fiercely loyal, super dependable, trustworthy and you value order and keeping a beautiful home. Your children will feel safe sharing their troubles with you at the end of the day, and they’ll totally love their chic upholstered headboards. But dear Taurus, you also value the finer things in life and are quick to spoil just to keep everyone happy. Tighten up that spending habit of yours, lest you end up breaking into their 529’s.

Geminis are children at their core, and true individuals who love to learn and stay engaged, which is actually an amazing quality considering how un-engaging playing with a toddler can be (dinosaurs…again? yay.) Just remember that sometimes, you have to let your children be children on their own, and not overstep just to feed your own creative endeavors. If you’re feeling stifled, sign up for a pottery class.

For Cancers, family is everything. As the nurturers of the Zodiac, we wouldn’t be surprised if your secret dream job is class parent and PTA president. You’re quick to kiss the boo-boo, wipe the tears away and offer a shoulder to cry on. Hey, you might even join in the sobfest. But keep in mind that their problems are not your problems. Parenting is all about boundaries, of which you’re known to have few. So try and remember to be strong for your kiddos without dissolving into their angst, as well. 

As the life of the party, Leos know how to create an exciting, fun home environment that all the kids want to be at. Your knack for planning over-the-top birthday celebrations will get you very far with the under six yet, and your family will never be bored with you at the helm. Always keep in mind, however, that you are no longer the center of it all, and as much as you want to have the last cookie, or tequila shot, it’s really not about you anymore. Even the wildest Leo has to grow up eventually. Not to worry, you can go back to dancing on tables on your next girls trip.

You dream in logic and order and have this whole parenting thing down to a science. PTA forms filled out? Check. Toddler soccer class sign up? Check. You’re first to drop off, first to pick up and you never fudge the dates of pre-k admissions, unlike other parents we know (ahem, Gemini). Just remember, dear Virgo, that sometimes the magic of parenting (and especially childhood) lies in total spontaneity and whimsy. You can’t plan for everything, so your work is to let both the good times and not so good times play out how they will.

Whether it’s choosing a restaurant or a pediatrician, you’re relaxed and peaceful in everything you take on. You create harmony in the home, and can communicate beautifully with your children even amidst the biggest tantrum. Just remember that your role is to create safe and clear boundaries as well. Although the whole “discipline thing” might come hard for you, try not to err on the side of being too ‘lax, as your kids actually crave structure and rules, even if you don’t.

Your expectations are high and your patience can be nil. Tough Love is your M.O., fiery Scorpio, and you’re determined to teach your kids those same qualities. But not everyone is signed on to your parenting philosophy and your little lovers, especially in the form of Cancers or Pisces, might need a more gentle parenting approach. Remember that not all grievances can be solved with fire. In fact, very few.

You’re an adventurous soul who’s always up for the next trip or exploration. You understand and tout that learning often takes place outside of the classroom by experiencing new cultures, people and ideas. All true, dear Sag. But remember, there’s also value in order, schedules, and for children to know what’s coming next in their day. As much as you want to go where the wind takes you, for your children, give them the best of both worlds: the comfort of plans with a strong dose of spontaneity. 

You’re known for their rationality, logic and ability to prove any point. Your kids won’t ever worry what the next item on the to-do list is or what’s happening next. Reliability is your comfort zone. But even if you’re busy baking 200 cookies for the bake sale or heading up the PTA, remember to make time for your kiddos, and that not everyone operates at your level of get-it-doneness. So be patient.

You’re free-spirited and outgoing and believe in parenting with a long leash. Right on, dear Aquarius. Giving children freedom and liberty is a very underrated quality, and one you excel at. Just remember your roles and responsibilities, and that maybe sending your five-year-old out for milk can be a questionable decision at best. (“But they do it in Japan” isn’t a good argument, either). You’ve got a million ideas for raising little bohemians, but keeping them safe is your primary goal.

Pretend play is a lot more interesting in your house and you’re definitely the “cool parent on the block.” You’re also artistic, empathetic and can connect to others on a soulful level. But sometimes as a parent, you must remember to tuck your heart back into your sleeve and wear your best poker face in tough parenting moments. Your child relies on you for strength in the face of setbacks, so at times you must toughen up for their sake, and you can cry when they go to bed.