There’s a lot you think you have to do when it comes to raising a baby, and there’s a lot you don’t. But it’s hard to know which is which. Look, you’re going to stress over when you have a newborn. It pretty much comes with the job. Are they breathing? Are they eating enough? Are they gaining weight? But “is the butt wipe warm enough?” is not one of those things. At Babe, we believe in giving moms a break and letting you all know that no, you don’t need to sweat the small stuff. Here are nine myths about caring for an infant that you can immediately check off your stress list.

1. You don’t have to warm the bottle.

It’s not medically necessary. It’s a matter of preference.

2. You don’t have to bathe your baby everyday.

If you want some bubbly bonding time, go for it. But young babies do not need a bath everyday. You can easily take a damp cloth over their face, neck, hands and diaper region to be kept clean.

3. You don’t need to put your baby on a schedule from day one.

It’s next to impossible to force a newborn baby into a routine, despite books that claim otherwise So why stress it?

4. You don’t need to warm the wipes.

So just stop.

5. You don’t have to deny them a bottle so they stay on the breast.

We’ve never heard of a baby who won’t go back to the boob after taking a bottle. So please, let something else feed them sometimes.

6. You don’t have to sleep train at 12 weeks exactly.

If you don’t sleep-train early, it’s not as though they’ll never sleep through the night. Do what feels right for you.

7. You don’t have to buy a ton of sensory toys.

 What actually helps your baby grow smarter is the interaction between you and your baby while playing with a toy, not the color or price tag on the toy, itself.

8. You don’t have to freak out if they’re crying.

Once you do a once-over to make sure they’re not hungry, wet or trying to poop, it’s often that they’re so awake and frazzled, they can’t calm their body down at this young age. The most fussy period is between three to six weeks of life. Of course, if their crying seems extreme, contact your pediatrician.

9. You don’t have to stress every developmental milestone.

An early talker may* tend to do better in language skills later in life, but it doesn’t mean that children who are not early talkers aren’t going to equal or rise above those talkers. If you do notice a delay in walking, that’s an important thing to talk to your pediatrician about.