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The postpartum experience is chalk-full of tough moments. There’s the round-the-clock nursing, the sleepless nights, the questioning and stressing over every little cry, burp or whimper. At Babe, we’re all about making the mama life simpler where we can. So, in partnership with our friends at Skip Hop, we’re bringing your the lifesaving items that will make the postpartum experience easier (not harder), so that you can change a diaper, give a bath, or carry your essentials to the playground with confidence and an “I got this” mentality, and save the stressful times for 3am.

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Sarah Nsikak Whitmarsh On pregnancy and owning her roots.

By Abby K. Cannon | Photos by Kara Northcut

We sat down with Sarah Nsikak Whitmarsh, the upstate New York-based Nigerian-American fashion designer, to talk all about her first pregnancy, her designs, and her desire to bring sustainability into the (often wasteful) fashion industry.

Sarah founded her brand, La Réunion, to create beautiful, African-inspired clothing from fabrics that would otherwise get thrown out – think bright colors and patchwork patterns from vintage fabrics and recycled materials from other New York-based designers, including our very own HATCH fabrics. As she preps to bring her first baby into the world, Sarah gets real, chatting about everything from navigating the healthcare system as a Black woman to cravings to how she’s preserving her energy for motherhood. Check out our interview below.

How are you feeling?

I feel pretty…unsettled. I have a doctor’s appointment next week and until then, I won’t know if the baby is in the right growth percentile. I have appointments every 2 weeks and in between appointments, I try to eat as many nutrients as I can and remain calm and not stress out, but it’s stressful! And, no one talks enough about pregnancy in a real way! I feel like I know everything about COVID and training for a marathon, and yet I feel like I know nothing about pregnancy.

I’m unsettled, but also have a lot of gratitude. I’ve stopped over-googling, which helps!

How is this pregnancy different from what you expected?

I didn’t expect so much uncertainty. I didn’t expect to be in a constant state of what if, what does this mean, why don’t I know this. I would have thought that my experience as a woman in the world would have prepared me better for this experience.

It’s only since becoming pregnant that I’ve learned about my mother’s experience getting pregnant and other family members’ pregnancies and births. I wish I knew more earlier. And, I wish that we normalized all the issues that come up, not just the joy and beautiful moments.

I didn’t expect to get here and be so surprised the whole time.

Any cravings? (Answers as her husband delivers her a smoothie…)

I only want smoothies and fruit, cold water and things that are really refreshing! Sometimes I want saltier things. But overall, I want fruit and hydrating foods. I think that’s because I’m not great at staying hydrated, so my body is craving hydrating foods. My favorite smoothie combo is berries, spinach, granola, vanilla protein powder, and vanilla Greek yogurt. I have food aversions where nothing really sounds good and I don’t look forward to meals as much as I used to. But, I’m trying to nourish myself for my baby’s growth.

Birth Plan?

I’m trying to figure out more specifics around my birth plan and I’m trying to find a doula! I do know that I’m having her in the hospital because I have a higher risk pregnancy because of slightly elevated AFP levels. (A lot of doctors don’t test for that because it’s antiquated and doesn’t say much, but my doctor did and then put me in the high-risk group. Elevated AFPs levels are more common in Black women).

Navigating the healthcare system as a Black woman has been challenging. We’re not empowered to speak up and I’m constantly asking myself “is this advice/recommendation going to serve me in the end or am I going to end up with complications that are more likely for Black women?” I didn’t know there were so many pre-existing conditions that make Black women at a higher risk for certain things. I’ve felt frustrated, neglected, and dismissed during this process. I wish I was more comfortable talking about my experience as a Black woman in the healthcare system. I don’t like the idea of placing fear on expectant mothers, which is what I’ve experienced. I have to advocate for myself more and I wish that I was more open about my fears and experiences as a pregnant Black woman.

Your style during pregnancy?

I’m a bit rebellious and don’t want to buy things that won’t last. I’ve been living in oversized shirts and sweaters and the jester pants that I designed out of French terry. But, at 30 weeks pregnant, I need some new clothes at this point and I’m excited to add in some HATCH clothing!

Oh and, compression socks. That’s it. That’s all I’m going to say. I love them.

 I would have thought that my experience as a woman in the world would have prepared me better for this experience.

How has being pregnant influenced your work and your designs?

I’ve been thinking about designing baby clothes!

I’ve also been thinking more about my legacy, which wasn’t important to me before but is now. I keep my baby in mind and think about how she’ll feel about what I do. I want her to be proud and I think about how she’ll interact with my designs in the future. I’ve made pieces specifically for the sake of passing them down. I want everyone to see my pieces as heirloom pieces. 

I want her to think “wow you made that out of post-consumer material and didn’t compromise on that for 10 years? That’s amazing.”

You describe your brand as “self-reunion to self.” What does that mean to you?

It is a bit cryptic, but it means having a foundational self – knowing where you come from. I want everyone to return to their self, to remain connected to their center. It’s liberating when you know where you’ve come from, yet lots of people go their whole life without knowing. Growing up, I had one culture at home, another at school, and another with Black Americans. Learning more about my Nigerian culture gave me a greater sense of self and belonging.

Through my designs, I’m embracing and celebrating my roots and culture and sharing stories about Africa that are elevated and thought out. I’m honoring my tribe and others that I learn about. 

What role does sustainability play in your work and life?

It’s the whole point! I always had the desire to work in sustainable fashion. I was working in fashion for several years and worked for different designers and always came away with scraps that I couldn’t believe they were throwing away! I was immensely frustrated by all the waste and wanted to repurpose the amazing scraps I found.

I want my customers to feel better about their purchase by knowing the fabrics are recycled from deadstock fabric. It’s still wasteful to make things, but the waste we at La Réunion create is very small. This is the move for fashion in the future. Designers have to take responsibility for how they’re creating their clothes.

Transitioning to home life, my partner is building a composter so we can compost our food scraps and we’re learning more about circular living, growing our own microgreens and food, and buying less plastic. We’re definitely in a transition period right now because we moved upstate and we’re having a baby, but we hope to continue to figure out how to live more sustainably. This is a nice journey to go through with a baby.

How do you plan to incorporate sustainability into parenting?

Diapers are really wasteful! This was one of the first things I thought about when I got pregnant. We’re going to use biodegradable diapers that we plan to compost ourselves. I’m prioritizing organic cotton clothing for her – it’s comforting to know how it was grown and that there aren’t chemicals that she’ll absorb from her clothing through her skin. I plan to breastfeed and supplement with formula if needed and to use glass bottles. 

Overall, I’m getting as few things as possible! I don’t want to go crazy buying things and then not use them. I think it’s better to not have so much.

Also, nothing is too precious in my home (or her nursery). I’ve collected lots of ratan furniture that I’m putting in her nursery. I won’t be upset if she broke it or banged it up. There’s nothing in our home that can’t be used because what’s the point!

Wishes for the future?

I really wish that people will live in a way that preserves the planet. We’re past the point of trying to prevent climate change. Now we have to think about preservation and future generations. I constantly think about my baby’s world in 20 years. I have a dream that all production will stop so that we can preserve more resources. That’s not going to happen, but I wish we all would think about preservation as it applies to garments, fabric, cultures, languages, the environment, everything.

I wish for less anxiety and more joy and peace throughout our lives for women.

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How SooPlainJane’s Jane Kim Roggen + Matt Nolan of @mattnolenruns Juggle Parenthood AND Exercise (Hint: the UPPAbaby RIDGE).

Staying fit amidst the chaos of parenthood is no joke. Sometimes it’s a miracle we can even find a second to brush our teeth, let alone carve out time to care for our physical well-being in the same way we did during the “before times.” 

So, in our quest to see how parents manage to stay fit while sleep training, meal prepping, potty training and more, our friends Jane Kim Roggen (aka @sooplainjane) and Matt Nolen of @mattnolenruns share the deets on taking care of themselves with their youngsters in tow. The essential hack? The UPPAbaby RIDGE, an all-terrain jogging stroller that lets parents push themselves to their limits, while comfortably pushing their little ones as well. 

With its no-inflation tires suited for any terrain, consider the UPPAbaby RIDGE the go-to stroller for fitness enthusiasts. It’s got a disc hand brake system ensuring maximum safety at marathon speeds, as well as an adjustable handlebar with a wrist strap so you’ll never lose your grip. We also love its deep, comfortable seat with webbing recline and a patented two-stage suspension system, so your LO can rest comfortably while you work out. And, if you’re too winded to run back home, its one-handed fold allows for easy access to hailing a cab. 

To see what else Jane and Matt recommend, check out our interviews below, where they talk everything from staying active as new parents to how the RIDGE gets them moving and grooving. 

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Jane Roggen, mama to Hughes, 20 months. Jersey City, NJ.

Pre-baby, what did you do to move your body?

I used to do Pilates three to four times a week and then a more intense, sweat-inducing class at least once a week. I started up again post-partum with Pilates. It’s important to me to stay active as a release of stress and anxiety. I also love blocking out the time for my well-being as self-care when I don’t have distractions like my phone/work and can be fully present. Running is actually something I’ve recently taken up to get my day started. It helps me clear my head, get outside and take in the fresh air and Vitamin D, and just feel energized. Even if it’s just a quick 15-minute jog, I feel productive and it gets the endorphins going.

Jane Roggen uses the UPPAbaby RIDGE

Why incorporate baby into your wellness routine?

Time is so valuable these days and I constantly find myself trying to balance everything, while also juggling the guilt that comes with parenthood. I love being able to multi-task – get a workout in but also enjoy quality time with my baby. It’s a different and unique bonding activity that allows me to be fully in the moment with him, it’s a win-win. I hope to show him at an early age how important it is to be active and set an example of a healthy lifestyle.

[Hughes] is an adventure seeker and loves speed so it’s something that he looks forward to and makes him so happy. It also gets him outdoors which if you’re a parent to a toddler, you know that your weekends are spent exerting their children and keeping them busy. I love that it’s an activity that we can do as a family and at the same time, get a good workout in! It’s the ultimate parent hack–everyone is happy, quality time together, and all guilt-free.

Jane Roggen uses the UPPABaby Ridge

What are some things you look for when purchasing gear that you’ll use with Hughes?

The most important thing is that the product fits into our lifestyle, and additionally, physically fits into our home. When we were looking at baby transportation gear (stroller, car seat) we made sure it was all-terrain and could bear the brunt of the city streets and weather. And of course, storage space was a huge factor! And for products in our home, they have to be compact enough or easily collapsible for storage since we don’t have the space as we would in a suburban home. 

Jane Roggen Stroller Uppababy

You and Hughes have been running with UPPAbaby RIDGE. Tell us about it! 

I was pleasantly surprised at all of the features RIDGE offered since I didn’t have many expectations for a jogging stroller. I’m a big fan of the big undercarriage storage that zips, the adjustable handlebar, and how easy it is to fold up. It’s actually a joy to push and so smooth, and my son actually gets excited to get strapped into this (he hates getting buckled into anything!) so I know that the seat is comfortable and Hughes-approved! I love that has the ease of an everyday stroller with all the bells and whistles that easily takes us from work-out to running errands in the city. What really piqued my interest was the foam-filled tires–which means I don’t have to ever worry about getting a flat tire or carrying a pump.

Matthew Nolan, papa to Eli, 2. Rockville Centre, NY

Matt Nolan Uppababy Stroller

Did your workout routine change post-baby?

Yes, I was someone who totally took advantage of working out any time of day, no matter how late or what else I had going on.  As soon as the baby arrived, everything changed and I had to become an early AM runner.  Like 5 or 6 AM get it done and then be available the rest of the day.  Now that he is older and still takes long afternoon naps, sometimes I can sneak in an hour-afternoon run but those are rare.  

Why incorporate baby into your wellness routine?

Running is physical and mental therapy all in one.  I get to have conversations with myself, think about what is going on in my life, and of course, know that I’m taking care of myself inside and out. Time is the most valuable thing we have. The time I get to spend with him is something that I cherish and want as much of that I can get.  Running with Eli is harder in a good way since now that he weighs about 40lbs.  He’s at this stage where he wants to know what everything is, so we have fun talking about what we see on the road. Also, he feels like he’s driving a car which he’s currently obsessed with the idea of.  

What are some things you look for when purchasing gear that you’ll use with Eli?

Safety trumps all, so that is always first, then, of course, something that does what it says it’s going to do, is easy to manage, and looks really, really cool.  

Matt Nolan with uppababy stroller

You and Eli have been running with UPPAbaby RIDGE. Tell us about it! 

The first word that comes to mind is smooth.  Smooth on any type of surface, to open up and close, and easy to get Eli in and out of. I also truly love finally having a brake system that works and makes me feel safer when I am out on the road. In the words of my mom, “you can see them but you never know if they can see you!” The tires have a level of quality you can see and feel as you push the stroller and I never have to worry about where we might go on a run, cement, dirt, grass, it can do it all and I love that. 

This article was written in partnership with UPPAbaby.

Nikki Millman is Making it Work With the help of our friends at Territory Foods.

If you’ve ever been to a digital or IRL event, it was probably conceived of, organized, and executed by Nikki Millman. As HATCH’s very own VP of community, she lives and breathes the very core elements that make HATCH, HATCH.  Here, she shares a day in her life as she navigates work mid-pandemic with her one-year-old, Ryder.

6:15 am:  I have a bad habit of waking up and immediately grabbing my phone and I am consciously trying to make a switch. Ideally, I would love to get up and exercise (like my husband does) but I don’t have that motivation right now! I do get up to wash my face (love all the Indie Lee products) and brush my teeth.

7:00 am:  Get Ryder (aka Pikachu) from his crib. We don’t go in earlier than 7 am to get Ryder but sometimes he will sleep past 7 am (which is fine by me). If he is awake prior to 7 am he really just chills in bed. Wondering how long that will last. I give Ryder his bottle while Evan gets us our morning ritual – green tea. We hang in Ryder’s room while he crawls around playing with all the toys I swore I would never have. 

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8:00 am: Our nanny comes and immediately jumps in to prepare Ryder’s breakfast. I sometimes hang out to spend some extra time with him but I have been really trying to get in a morning exercise/stretch. Today it is an 18-minute pilates and 12-minute arm series on melissawoodhealth.com. It makes a world of a difference (both physically and mentally) even if for 30 minutes.

8:47 am: After a quick shower, I do my quick morning skincare routine. I still use HATCH Belly Oil every day. The product is incredible – not greasy and helps to moisturize – and the bottle just looks beautiful in my bathroom. 

After making breakfast, I settle in at my desk – which is in the corner of my bedroom. It is really hard to work, sleep, and exercise in the same place but a big win is that I can pop in to see Ryder for a minute during the day. I try to clear out my inbox before the start of meetings for the day.

9:30 am: Log-on to our HATCH team Zoom meeting to connect on all things for the week ahead. It is such a nice way to see everyone’s faces. I really miss office life – I am a people connector – but Zoom has obviously been a new amazing way to keep the connection alive.

10:24 am: I sometimes need something more than just fruit in the morning (especially if I get in a workout). 

Having Territory Foods in the kitchen makes it so easy. I grab one (and a half) of their Pumpkin Cranberry Muffins from Chef Rachelle Slotnick – they are SO good. I heat them up with a little ghee and it does the trick. Ryder wakes up from his nap and screams for a bite. The ingredients are quality and real (which is super important for me) and I love that he is open to trying almost anything.

11:48 am: I pop into our HATCH Upper East Side location (which is conveniently on my block) to coordinate a few gifting pieces for upcoming launches. I love an excuse to get out of the house and the store is breathtaking. All the HATCH stores have different vibes to fit the area and I personally think this one is my favorite. 

12:44 pm: I know I have meetings for the rest of the afternoon so I prepare my lunch. I grab whatever is in the refrigerator – today it is avocado toast plus a side salad of arugula and cucumbers.

2:54 pm: Meeting ended early so snuck in a quick hug from Ryder post his afternoon nap. Ugh, he is the best medicine! 

4:08 pm: Get back to my inbox in hopes of getting it down to 30 before the end of the day. I block off an hour a couple of days a week so that I have some time to do work. I am an inbox zero person! 

5:32 pm: I try to log off the computer so I can have some QT with Ryder. He just came out of the bath and smells SO good. I just started using a new brand EllaOla and I’m obsessed! I love testing new, clean products for Ryder and there are so many that are coming to market now with incredible ingredients. 

5:48 pm: Dance party in Ryder’s room. We all love music and watching Ryder move his body is one of my favorite things. Third to thumb sucking and crossing his feet. 

6:11 pm: It is like clockwork with him – around 6:05 pm he starts getting fussy and putting his thumb in his mouth because he is ready for his bottle. This kid loves to eat and sleep and I cannot complain. My husband does the nighttime bottle and sometimes I’ll grab a book to read to him before bed. He doesn’t quite have the patience yet for books.

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6:28 pm: Put Ryder in his sleep sack (he gets SO excited and smiley), sound machine on, lights off, and bed. 

6:42 pm: My husband heads to the kitchen to prep our green veggie for the night – tonight it is asparagus. We typically have different main dishes. Tonight I’m exhausted so I am beyond excited to have Territory Foods Rice Noodle Pad Thai bowl inspired by Butcher’s Daughter (one of my favorite downtown restaurants). I put it in a skillet on medium-high heat and in 8 minutes it is done! So easy!

7:15 pm: Log-on to our pre-event Zoom to connect with panelists before the event. Since Covid, we launched our digital events platform and host 2-3 events per week. The technical aspect used to be nerve-racking but we have this down to a science now. It is amazing how we can really support all parents during this journey digitally. I can’t wait to get back to in-person events though, I have missed them!

8:23 pm: Since pregnancy, baths are my me time. I run a bath (which looks a bit different now with all Ryder’s toys but I can’t complain). I use HATCH Mama Calm – I’m obsessed with the coconut smell. I go through them weekly. 

Post bath skin routine is similar to the morning routine minus the moisturizer. I love doing face masks but I always forget to put them on before I get in the bath so I skip it tonight.

9:13 pm: Get in bed. I am in bed between 9 pm – 9:30 pm most nights with a cup of camomile or peppermint tea (and maybe a piece of Hu Kitchen chocolate). I love to read unless I have something I specifically want to watch on TV (I am not into scrolling mindlessly on the TV anymore). I just binged watched Season 2 of Love Life. 

My husband usually finds me asleep with my glasses on before 10 pm. And then wake up and repeat!

This article was written in partnership with Territory Foods.

Moving on From the "Postpartum Haze" Why we get stuck and how to move past it in 2022.

By Babe | Photo by @sophiesmithfamilies

We’ve all been there. Your baby is teetering on three, maybe four months, you have exactly one week left of maternity leave and you feel….blah. Like you have NO clue how to go beyond being “postpartum” even though your babe’s getting older and you feel like maybe it’s time to settle into being a parent. After all, those work emails aren’t going to answer themselves.

Chill, mama. These expectations you’ve set up for yourself are in large part a product of culture. Did you know in other countries, moms get up to 18 months of paid leave?

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That means you get to be postpartum for over a year, whereas in the US we’ve taught women that by 12 weeks they should be “adjusted” to motherhood and ready to take on the world. Kind of sounds like a lose/lose, no?

“In the global context, our reentry is really premature,” says Dr. Darby Saxbe, a clinical psychologist and professor of Psychology at the University of Southern California. “Moms have this conflict. We’re pulled by so many different feelings. In some ways we’re not even biologically ready to be back to ourselves. For me it probably took two years.”

So what’s a new mama to do? First, Saxbe recommends recalibrating expectations and being kind to yourself.

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“There’s this narrative of ‘bouncing back’ after baby,” Saxbe says. “Getting back into work or your exercise routine should really happen within years, not months.
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But for many of us, the choice isn’t ours. We have jobs, older children to tend to, and can’t afford to wallow in the haze any longer.

So if you’re looking to get out of the postpartum fog, ask yourself: are you feeling forced to even though you’re not ready? Because if so, we give you permission to quiet that inner voice down. But if you’re genuinely ready to take on life again, here are a few tips for reentry back into the world.

Get Support: “Make sure you have help,” says Saxbe. “This isn’t a transition you can make in a solitary way. It’s normal to need a lot of support.”

Focus On What Gives You Meaning: “Realign your priorities and remind yourself that what is meaningful now make look different than before.”

Realign Your Priorities: “Having kids makes us more oriented towards thinking about the future and the next generation. Maybe you want to focus on the environment or the importance of women in the workplace.

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Remember Your Mental Health: “It sounds impossible but you need to get enough sleep. People struggle so much but focus on your sleep and make it a consistency.”

Aida Garcia-Toledo is Making It Work How the *new* mama of 3 and non-toxic expert does her day.

By Babe | Photos courtesy of Aida Garcia-Toledo

It’s never a dull moment for Aida Garcia-Toledo. As the founder of 3 Little Plums (formally Non-Toxic Munchkin), she’s on a mission to make non-toxic living simpler and less overwhelming and empowering and teaching families to take small steps to reduce toxin exposure and create a balanced, non-toxic, healthy home. Did we mention she has two sons and a newborn baby girl? We reached out to Aida in her last month of pregnancy to see how she keeps it all moving and shaking.

6 am: I like to get up before everyone else and look over my emails and get a head start on any morning work that needs to get done. I find this extra 30-40 minute head start allows me to be more flexible with my mornings . I also start my day by drinking a mason jar filled with water.

6:30 am: I start waking the boys up. Even though they are already 8 and 10, they still snuggle with us for a bit before getting out of bed. My youngest will get into bed with us and then I get into my older son’s bed and chat a bit before he is ready to get up.

6:50 am: As the boys are getting dressed I take 10 minutes for my morning routine: I start by splashing cold water on my face, followed by face rolling with my favorite moisturizer and get dressed in comfy leggings (The ones I have from Hatch are my favorite!)  and tops. At 37 weeks  pregnant, few clothing items are as comfortable! 

7 am: We all head downstairs and things become even more efficient! My husband is on breakfast duty and I am on lunch and snack duty.  Breakfast for me while pregnant is usually a poached egg over sourdough toast and plenty of water.

7:45 am: I say goodbye to the kids. (My husband takes them to school) and I head out for my daily walk. As my pregnancy progressed, I have switched from doing a morning Peloton ride to a more gentler hour walk on most days. While I walk I like to listen to podcasts. Some of my favs:

  • The Doctor’s Farmacy with Mark Hyman
  • Overheard with National Geographic
  • Smartless
  • Dr. Berlin’s Informed Pregnancy Podcast

9 am: Back at home I shower and get dressed for the day – again these days in the comfiest clothes I can find! Since I work from home, I have no commute time. Mornings are my most productive time, so I focus on finishing that day’s Instagram and blog post if I am posting,  return emails and work with my corporate consulting clients all during the morning hours. Efficiency and time management skills are key as the morning just doesn’t have that many hours!  

12:30 pm: My husband also works from home (my office is upstairs in our bedroom, he has his own office downstairs) and one of the best things about this is that we get to have lunch together almost every day! Today we head over to Erewhon ( an organic upscale grocery store) and grab lunch there 

1:30 pm – 3 pm: I usually schedule most of my one-on-one client consults after lunch. I love getting to connect and work one on one with families and helping them take ownership of their low tox living journey.   

3:30 pm: School pick up. Somehow I am always the last mom to pick up, but the boys love it because it gives them extra play time with friends and teachers.

3:45 pm: Prep afternoon snacks and catch up with the kids on their day.  

4 pm: Afternoons vary- sometimes I need to take one son to tennis or tutoring or I help them find an activity to work on (these days my older son might be working on middle school application questions or homework and my younger son can either read or free play) while I finish up pending work downstairs near them.

5 pm: Time to take older son to soccer practice. My husband and I take turns. Today my younger son doesn’t have an after school activity which makes things easier for me- otherwise it’s Uber driver mom dropping off and picking up in the afternoon! Instead, I take advantage and head to the supermarket with my younger son while older son is at soccer.

7 pm: We’re back home. My husband has made dinner and we sit to eat as a family.  This is non negotiable family time and on a busy day, it’s so important for both us and the kids. Part of our dinner routine is talking about our “peach and pits” of the day – it’s a great way to hear about everyone’s day and connect!  There are always plenty of silly jokes and funny moments with two boys of this age. From dinner to bedtime I put my phone and email away and focus on the kids and I find this helps connect even more.

8 pm: While the hubs takes on kitchen cleanup I head upstairs to supervise kids shower and transition to bed (otherwise it becomes a big party! My boys have SO much energy! )

I usually have pending work so while kids are in shower and getting ready for bed I am at my desk working on writing and content editing and/ or responding to DMs from my community. 

8:45 pm: We are done with bedtime prep, including reading. The house is quiet and I take advantage to do some planning and organizing for the baby before falling asleep at the nice and early time of 9:30! Prior to pregnancy my husband and I would take this time to watch a show but at this point in pregnancy most nights I just go to bed early!

Stressed Over Introducing Solids? Senta Health is serving up your feeding plan.

By Babe | Image by Stocksy

Peanut butter or no peanut butter? Avocado, yay or nay? If transitioning to solids has you stressing, join Senta Health (the prenatal, postnatal, and pediatric nutrition experts) in exploring how to introduce solids to your newbie and the different points of view in the feeding conversation.

Watch….and learn.

Hellooo Pre-Spring 2022 New year, new collection c/o HATCH.

By Babe | Images by HATCH

Well, our friends at HATCH have done it again. It’s a new year and they’re helping us hit the wardrobe reset button with a new collection of transitional knits, classic shirting pieces, softer-than-soft sweats, easy overalls, utilitarian jumpsuits and the bestest tees for bumping around your living room. Think core, foundational pieces that leave no detail overlooked. Essentially, what it comes down to is that you don’t need a lot, you just need everything you buy to be, like, really, *really* good. We get it!

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The Trauma of Childbirth Holly Cocozza on how this "magical experience" doesn't always go as planned, and how we can be better for it.

By Holly Cocozza

Holly Cocozza’s labor and delivery was a rollercoaster of emotions she wasn’t prepared for, one that left her depleted, traumatized and wanting to share. As head of community at Quilt, a new social wellness space to connect and learn through daily conversation, she was able to express herself freely in the supportive network she helped form. Here, Holly takes us along on the journey of her labor, and how sometimes the unplanned can show us just how strong we are.

My veins run hot, my blood pumping harder than ever, tears flood my face. Suddenly level 10 pain and cramping return to my uterus. All this from simply watching a two minute birth video on Instagram. 

I never knew that trauma from birth could hide deep down inside of me and come out to play whenever the hell it feels like it. It’s not just me, 1 in 3 people who give birth report a similar experience. 

Within moments of this trigger, I transport back into labor.

My jaw tenses up, as my contractions begin. I’m feeling lucky to get started at home, with my doula (via text). I comfortably labor, rotating from the tub to a birth ball, all while listening to my curated labor playlist and hypnotherapy meditation tracks.  Perfectly prepared like a typical Virgo.

Birth is beautifully flawed. For me, there were elements of strength and triumph, shame, and defeat. I share my story to crack open and expose the things you don’t see in that perfectly curated square post as you scroll through social media. 

As I arrive at the hospital, my contractions are 40 seconds long and about five minutes apart. I abandoned my contraction tracking app which would have had me here hours ago, but by the time I was emitted, things slowed to a crawl. I blame the fluorescent lighting. It was like the waiting room at the DMV. I couldn’t wait to get my room set with dim lighting, flameless candles, crystals, music, and eucalyptus aromatherapy. 

Nine hours in now, I start on a “light Pitocin” to get things moving. This wasn’t a step I wanted to take, but I was open to it moving things along and still achieving a non-medicated birth, sans epidural. 

8:30 AM: the next day (after being up for 24-plus hours already, 14 hours into active labor, five hours on Pitocin) my high pain tolerance is being tested. My contractions are strong and consistent, and I want to drown the pain with high energy music and explosive movement. My doula cautions me that as a first-time laborer, it is very important that I rest for the short 4–5 minute periods between contractions.

I kept the lights low, and music soft and tried to stay in a relaxed headspace. It’s time for my doctor to check my progression, and I’m sure I’ve dilated much further and might be ready to push. The first moment of defeat, I’m still only 3 cm dilated. My doctor breaks my water to help give my baby a chance to push down further and open my cervix. Once the amniotic sac is broken, I lose the slight cushion between the fetus, my uterus and cervix which makes the contractions get even more painful. 

It’s hard to shake my desire to “overachieve” such as in life, but if my pre-labor coaching taught me anything, it’s that I will need to surrender. 

It’s time to switch up the energy, so I open the blinds and channel some of the most powerful female artists and mamas I know. Another four hours of taking the pain minute to minute, working with my partner for counter pressure on each contraction, and I’m checked again by the nurse, no progression. I start to feel shame. My body isn’t doing what it is supposed to. Exhaustion creeps in, tears fill my cheeks. Doubt appears as I continue to breathe and stick to my well-rehearsed pain management tools. 

I blame the fluorescent lighting. It was like the waiting room at the DMV.

As I move into 24 hours of active labor, I start to resent the IV bag next to me. My low back is on fire. Going up and down, extreme highs with big guttural screams of a strong lioness achieving the unthinkable, to lows where I shrivel up, shaking and moaning, craving to be cradled like a baby. 

Aromatherapy, visualization, focal point, anchor, breathwork, rapid progressive muscle relaxation, massage, acupressure, hot and cold compress, counter pressure, squats, lunges, and laps around the hospital, every trick in the book, but all I want is a fucking nap. 

8 PM: 26 hours of active labor only to find out I have yet to progress. We see the same nurses from yesterday, as they begin baby spinning exercises like Froggy Walcher’s to help my hips open and get my baby to drop. My teeth start chattering, and my legs begin shaking. Exhaustion hits a new high as I enter a state of lucid dreaming, only partially aware of my thoughts. My doula reminds me that our body can recognize pleasure before pain, so I grab my husband and start to make out with him aggressively. 

Now it’s 1 am (31 hours in) and I’m ready to throw in the towel. I am utterly depleted, defeated. I cannot continue. The white flag is out, someone else needs to have this baby for me. 

Suddenly, rectal pressure, a good sign that the baby is dropping. Excited by this new sensation I get dizzy and see spots. The nurse rushes in, and for the first time in my 32-hour labor experience I had progressed! I’m now dilated 6-7 cms and I get my first uptick in energy. The black clouds disintegrate, and the sky opens up. 

4:30 AM: Things get weird. My teeth chattering, legs convulsing, guttural screams and moans return, seeing spots, getting dizzy, and puking. I’ve never done crack before, but I believe this is what it would look like on me. 

I tell myself that all I need to do is make it to 7:30 AM. My doctor will be here, the nurse that I like will be here, my doula will be here, the sun will be up, and a new day will start, the day my daughter will finally be born. Minute by minute I clock the five hours between totally giving up and being in the place to finally push this baby out of me. 

7:45 AM my doctor arrives and says she hears it’s time to start pushing. My team is all smiles as she checks my dilation.
I see her face change. 

“3-4 centimeters”, she says. “WHAT? Noooooo!”
“I’m so sorry Holly.”
The dark cloud re-enters the room. 

I trust my doctor, as she has different nurse double check.
How is this possible? Why me? It doesn’t make sense. This isn’t right. But that’s where we are. 3-4 cms. 

I am no longer defeated.
I am furious.
I am now a Mountain Gorilla.
Beating my chest, I proclaim: “I cannot meet my daughter in this condition. I need rest. I need to come back to myself. Stop the Pitocin. I need the epidural. NOW!” 

I consider myself incredibly privileged that everything progresses from there. After 49 hours of labor, the universe timed up my mom landing in L.A. from Chicago, entering my hospital room minutes after I began pushing, giving me the last ounce of strength I needed to bring our beautiful baby girl into the world. At 7:43 pm Francesca Sky came out, and my whole world got brighter. 

I believe all birth is natural. All birth is valid. It is messy, unique, painful, and heroic. The flaws within this stubborn miracle are the tissue that binds us together as humans. A metaphor for life: sharing in the raw, honest, vulnerable pain and struggle is how we truly connect, grow, and appreciate the beauty of evolving into new versions of ourselves. I’m a firm believer that this journey doesn’t need to be caged and curated for other people’s validation. I see a world where we can celebrate without shame or judgement in a space that honors the reality and complexity of all our trauma. 

The New HATCH Nursing Styles You Need Because everyone's coming to meet the babe.

By Babe | Photos by HATCH

So what are you going to wear when everyone wants to come meet the baby? Fortunately, our friends at HATCH have you covered with three new nursing styles designed for maximum comfort and breastfeeding/pumping access, coupled with a strong dose of style so that you can look somewhat pulled together while entertaining. (They swear they just want to help, right?)

The new HATCH Jersey Nursing Tee is a relaxed crewneck tee with a slightly oversized fit and a wide hem made for nursing (just lift up, pop babe under and feed). Essentially, it’s a no-brainer of a maternity top designed to work all four trimesters and then some. Pair it with its matching Jersey Nesting Pant, a soft gauze style with a cool harem drop crotch and comfy elastic band (because you’ve got a lot going on down there).

But if you really can’t stomach the idea of separates, why not rock a house dress while nursing round the clock and hanging with family? The new HATCH Organic Nursing Night Dress is a cute play on the house dress with balloon sleeves, a nursing-friendly button-front closure, and a grow-with-you elastic band at the back. But the best part might be that you can wear it out and about just in case you need to escape all of those well wishers.

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