Denise Vasi's Making It Work How the Maed founder and mama of two keeps it all happening everyday.

By Babe | Photo courtesy of Denise Vasi

Denise Vasi understands the juggle. As a mother of two and founder of Maed.co, a site dedicated to nutrition, beauty and wellness for women who balance careers and parenthood, she gets firsthand just how hard it can be to keep everything in check. Here, she outlines her day for us, from negotiating her daughter’s outfit of choice, to creating content for her legions of mamas, to hosting Salsa dance parties in her kitchen. Here’s how Denise is making it work.

5:30 am: I go straight from my bed to my desk while still in my pajamas. I have a brutally early call with a team member who lives in London this morning. We go over Maed’s website analytics and map out content strategy for the weeks ahead.

6:30 am: I jump in the shower and start to get ready. I’m taping a podcast today and need to be camera-ready. I use a curl refresh spray from Fekkai, so I don’t have to wash or restyle my hair–this is a major time saver because setting my curls from scratch can add an extra hour and a half to my routine.

I go through my daytime skincare routine and put on a little makeup. Concealer under the eyes, mascara, some rouge, and a red lip.

7:00 am: Hubby starts breakfast and juices celery for both of us. I start putting together school lunch for my six-year-old. 

I hear little bodies moving around in my room. The kids are up! They somehow always end up in our bed. Sometimes it’s 5am, sometimes it’s at 3am! We co-slept with both of our children, so it’s never a bothers to me. I love all the snuggles!!!

7:15 am: The kids sit down for breakfast. My girl is having a gluten-free waffle with fresh strawberries with 2 fried egg whites. My son is having gluten-free oatmeal with cinnamon and raspberries. 

7:40 am: My daughter and I head to her room to start the “what are you wearing to school today?” negotiations. She gets herself dressed, and I dress my two-year son. I do my girl’s hair, we go over affirmations and mottos, like “Share your voice with the world, your opinion is always valued, and the more the merrier.”

We spend five minutes looking for her shoes.

7:55 am: I help load the kids into the car, and hubby is off. My husband is a film and commercial director and is on the road a lot so when he’s in town, he handles morning dropoff. After dropping our daughter off at school, he takes our son to the park.

8:00 am: This is one of the few times in my day when I’m not performing the juggling act between mother and entrepreneur. I am kidless, and that means it is go-time! 

I rush to get dressed, a black tee-shirt, jeans, and a pair of motorcycle boots.

8:15 am: I run to my desk and look over Maed’s editorial calendar. I prioritize emails from my managing editor and my writers. I drink my first cup of coffee.

8:45 am: I make myself a simple avocado toast on gluten-free bread with a squeeze of lemon, a dash of salt, and a few splashes of hot sauce.

9:00 am: I head back to my desk to go over emails, I prioritize only my brand partnership emails, taking note of any important notes or deadlines. All other emails get addressed later in the day. This is how I avoid getting lost in my inbox for hours. 

9:30 am: My son is back from the park. I wash him up, change him into clean clothes, and make him an almond butter toastie. We connect and play cars till I have to sneak away.

10:15 am: I head back to my office to make sure my computer is charged and my microphone is working to record my guest spot on Thorne Research’s podcast.

11:30 am: Podcast is wrapped. I head to the kitchen to make a smoothie for myself, jump on Instagram stories to check in on my community. I recently launched a six-week skincare challenge, so we’ve been sharing barefaced selfies and individual results from the challenge.

I whip up some mushroom, black bean, and avocado tacos for my son and me.

12:00 am: I sit down with him for lunch. Lunch always takes longer than I anticipated because he’s a grazer. He takes a bite of food, gets up, grabs a toy, walks around, and then finally returns to the table. 

12:45 pm: Time for him to take a nap. We go for a quick stroll around the block because that’s the fastest way to get him to snooze. Sometimes I just do loops in my backyard… whatever gets it done, right?

1:10 pm: I rush back upstairs to my office. I have 90 minutes to film content. I’m currently working on a gift guide video featuring three of my favorite clean beauty gift sets from Sephora.

2:40 pm: My son is up, I load into him my car, and we leave to pick up my daughter. Our school is only a few minutes away, but the carpool line is ridiculous, so I use this time to run a 30-minute work call. 

3:30 pm: We get home from school pick-up, wash up, have a quick snack, and change into park clothes.

4:15 pm: We head to a local park where my daughter plays soccer with some of her school friends. My youngest rides his bike on the grass, and I catch up with some newer mom friends that I met when my daughter transitioned into elementary school.

5:45 pm: The kids and I are back home from soccer.

6:00 pm: It’s 6 pm, so I sit down to share an Instagram post. Most of my social media posts revolve around mothering, self-care, or beauty and usually go live around 6PM.

I throw on some salsa music and have a little dance party in the kitchen with the kids.

6:30 pm: Hubby walks through the door, jumps right into our dance party, and then makes himself and me a cocktail. I used to strictly drink bubbly rosé, but now I’m all about spicy margaritas. Hubby and I tag-team dinner.

7:00 pm Dinner time! Since husband is home, we eat Euro-style, AKA later than most families. It’s important to us that we get our time all together to talk about our day. We share what we’re looking forward to, and sometimes we play a quick storytelling board game, but tonight our six-year-old read us a book about going to the library–remember those?

7:45 pm: We set a five-minute timer and challenge the kids to see who can pick up the most toys off the floor. Somehow I always win this game!

8:00 pm: Bedtime for the kids! We use a kid’s meditation app to help guide them to sleep quickly. Sometimes hubby and I split bedtime responsibilities. Sometimes, all four of us jump in bed together and cuddle, but hubby has to handle both kids tonight. I’m presenting content to a brand tomorrow, and I need to finish editing video footage.

8:10 pm: I shower and run through my nighttime skincare routine, which I am adamant about–hence why I designed a community challenge around skincare

I alternate my products, tools, and devices. Tonight I did a ten-minute microcurrent session with my Nuface device

8:40 pm: I sit down to finish editing video content for my latest project. I do most of my writing and content editing at night because I’m a total night person, and obviously, there are fewer interruptions.

Hubby threw on a new Netflix show he’s into while I pretended not to watch but then in an attempt to solve the whole series, I annoyed him with 22 questions.

10:00 pm: I wrap my edit up, and we cuddle up on the couch.

10:30 pm: Hubby heads to bed. He always ends up in bed before me!! 

I send out any last-minute emails to my team or jot down any random ideas that come to mind. Then I scroll Instagram one last time, which is honestly a terrible thing to do before bed, but hey, no one is perfect! I might share something from earlier in my day or something that’s on my mind or in my heart. I grab a small glass of water, take ten minutes to meditate, and then I’m off to bed.

Tomorrow is another chaotic day! Ha!

Cravings: What Do They Mean? Peep this video and discover the why behind your preggo diet.

By Babe | Photo courtesy of Stocksy

Whether you can’t stand the site of your favorite chicken salad or can’t stop popping popcorn doused in honey and peanut butter, cravings are a tricky thing. Join Jennifer Jolorte Doro and Irene Liu, co-founders of Nouri, as they discuss why you’re craving certain foods, or not, and how can you satisfy all of your preggo dietary indulgences while prioritizing your health.

Go Ahead, Gift Yourself You deserve it.

By Babe | Photos courtesy of HATCH

Sure, you can wait for someone to get you the super stylish, super cozy maternity pieces you want, or you can just buy them yourself. Here at Babe, we’re all about self-gifting, and our friends at HATCH have made it easier than ever with a bevy of feel-good, look GREAT pieces for the bump, the bod and beyond to cuddle up to during your pregnancy and afterwards. Happy holidays, indeed.

Lesley Anne Murphy BRCA previvor and new mom

By Babe | Photos by Jason Masters

Lesley Anne Murphy is adventurous in spirit—but in one particular aspect of her life she wasn’t willing to take any risks. After watching her mother survive breast cancer and determining that she herself tested positive for the BRCA mutation (or tumor suppressor gene), the jet-setter and influencer underwent a preventative double mastectomy. That harrowing journey helped prepare her for her next great adventure—motherhood. The Road Les Traveled founder got engaged soon before the world shut down and put off her wedding until friends and family could be in attendance. Just a few months after saying yes to her partner, she realized she was due to give birth to a baby girl. Here, Murphy gets candid about how her her surgery prepared her for birth and motherhood—and how there are many ways to bond with your baby outside of breastfeeding.

Birth story?

My birth was incredible. I went in with zero expectations. So by that time I had known many women before me to do it, and had heard amazing stories and horror stories. I knew not all goes to plan. So I went in kind of without one, and I think that made for such a good experience because I just trusted the doctors and trusted the journey. She came out super tiny exactly three weeks early—five pounds, 15 ounces.

I knew I wanted an epidural, and I knew I wanted a healthy baby. And that was kind of the plan. The epidural was incredible. I have heard from so many women that obviously the epidural is designed to numb you from the waist down, but nobody told me it was going to feel like this euphoric feeling. And I think it probably hits people differently. But for me, it was just this amazing relaxed state, and I remember the doctor coming in around 2:55 AM to check me one more time. And she looks at me and she goes, “Are you ready to have this baby?” And I looked back at her and I was like, “Right now? Maybe just a few more minutes, I feel so good.” She turned on the lights, she had the nurses come in. The energy, obviously changed. I did seven pushes and she was out. Just the most amazing experience. If I could relive it over and over, I would. It’s not lost on me how lucky I am, because I know that isn’t everyone’s experience.

Path to pregnancy?

I think it happened in the perfect way and in a bit of a non-traditional way—which is right on par with us and kind of the road less traveled. We actually got engaged February of 2020,  right before the world shut down. We weren’t able to have a wedding. Especially because his family is over in Australia, and we really want both our families there for that special day. We knew we wanted kids, but I also do believe that science is real and we’re 34 now and we didn’t want to wait. We didn’t want this pandemic to dictate every aspect of our lives. So we weren’t necessarily planning to have a child, but we knew we wanted one and we just kind of let fate take over and I found out I was pregnant late June of 2020.

I think that was our way of taking back control from this pandemic. We’d still be waiting on a wedding, on having kids. And so I’m really, really happy that our story unfolded the way it did because now we have a seven-month-old and we’re living our lives and that’s how it happened for us. Again, it’s not lost on me how lucky we are there, too.

Travel has been such a big part of your life. How was that time without traveling for you?

Oh my gosh. I’ve never had it harder in my life. It was such a challenge in so many aspects because usually we would spend a few weeks out of a year at home, and it was completely turned on its head. And now we were spending a few days out of the year in other places, in other beds, in hotels when we could get away. We went away to Oregon on a road trip, and to Colorado on a road trip in the pandemic. And that felt so nice. Overall, it was just a complete turn of a lifestyle and business. I was going from full-time travel blogger to, ‘Okay, what am I supposed to do now? Anything but travel.” It brought on so many questions and so many insecurities and that’s really where the challenge was. But, I’m also kind of glad it happened that way because I thought for so long I had to travel 300 plus days out of the year to keep an audience.

I learned that’s just not the case. I don’t have to kill myself and get on a plane every other week to keep people interested. I really became more of a lifestyle blogger. And you know, what do you do if you don’t post about travel? I guess, in a pandemic you post about anything else. So it was gardening, recipes, interior design. So many things that I’ve never really dived into, which was a fun challenge.

Do you plan on bringing Nora on the road?

Absolutely. We took her to Hawaii at three months, and LA and New York a couple of times. I honestly feel like she thrives on the road. She gets bored at home so I know she is my daughter. So I know once we get back to that point where we can travel more often, she’s going to love it. And I can’t wait.

Tips for traveling with a baby?

Get to the airport early, plan ahead. And that’s not something I’m entirely accustomed to. Sometimes I like to take on the journey without doing a ton of research. I like the surprise aspect of it. And with children, I think you need to have a bit more organization. It’s crazy because I traveled to Zion last week with my partner, and we were getting ready and we did the travel day. And I was like, “I feel like I’m forgetting something here. What is wrong?” And it’s just when you’re so used to traveling with a baby and then travel without a baby, it feels like a breeze. And so I think the rule one travel tip is just plan, get to the airport early, and go in with no expectations. Because you’ll never know how that travel day is going to go. Anything can happen.

You’ve been so open about your feeding journey. How is your experience going now?

I love feeding Nora by bottles, and I knew I wasn’t going to be able to breastfeed her from the get-go. I had a preventative double mastectomy in 2017 and I took that choice away from her way back then. I did that surgery for me and my health because I saw what it did to my mom. And today she’s great and she’s healthy, but she was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to undergo a double mastectomy. And I didn’t want that for myself. And so I did it preventatively and I’m so proud of my 29-year-old self for doing that. But today I look at Nora and I know I did that for her because she’s now going to have a mom who’s going to be around for as long as possible because you never know when that gene can be turned on in an instant.

Putting my story out there from 2017 on, I’ve gotten so many messages from women younger and younger, and that’s a scary thing. We just never know when it’s going to hit—breast cancer knows no age. So if that means that I have to feed Nora through a bottle, so be it. I’m so proud of that decision. She took a bottle like a champ from day one. I know a lot of people are scared of that, but I know you can bond with them through bottle feeding, and through so many other methods.

Even just last night, we’re a sick household right now. And we were up at all hours of the night—I was just trying to settle her. She was just staring at me as I sang the age-old “You Are My Sunshine,” over and over to her. I felt so connected to her in that moment. So I just want other women to know that if they’re going through something similar, you can bond with your child in so many other ways.

Do you think your surgery helped prepare you for motherhood?

Definitely. I kept gearing up for labor and delivery and I feel like when you hit around 36 weeks, you’re on baby watch. And I kept thinking, ‘How is this going to go? Is this going to hurt?’ And I was like, ‘No, I am so ready for this.’ I had my breasts removed. I can do this. Especially with an epidural on my side, I can do this. Then I remember lying there from right when I got to the hospital when the contractions were coming on. The doctor was like, “You have some high pain tolerance, girl.” And I was like, “Yeah, maybe I do.” I think I have my double mastectomy to thank for that.

I think it prepared me in a mental way as well. Just because you have to prep for something like that in every single way. It’s almost more emotional than it is physical, especially if you’re attached to your breasts. And so moving into pregnancy and labor and delivery, I knew how to prepare myself for that just from past experience with my body. And I’ve always been very in tune with my body. I felt like labor and delivery was so beautiful. The human female body is extremely powerful.

Maternity Leave?

I feel like I did okay with maternity leave. Working for yourself, it’s tough to really draw boundaries and designate that time. But I learned quickly that your newborn baby will do that for you. Something I learned early on is I could have all the plans in the world to go back to work. But I always kept coming back to the word surrender, because you have to give up everything to take on this new life. I wanted to take the first month or two really slowly or mostly off from work. I think I tried coming back around eight weeks. I learned every day is different and she comes first. So I just had to keep coming back to surrendering and knowing that my life is forever changed for the better and that right now, she is my everything.

Also with that, I know it takes a village and that’s why we moved back to Arkansas. I had a lot of trouble coming to the conclusion that Arkansas was the right place coming from living all over the world and living in and out of LA. I never thought I’d move back, but I also watched my older sister have two kids, and I know how important family is. It’s also not lost on me, how lucky that we were to be able to make a move in a pandemic and have family around. There’s no place I’d rather be. My mom has played such a huge role in taking care of Nora and allowing us to go back to work a bit more as time goes on. And she just started her first day of daycare last week. So I think as she gets older, we can take on more responsibilities with work life balance—and it is a balance. I think it’s always going to be a juggling act and that’s motherhood.

Relationship with your partner in this new phase??

It’s amazing. I do feel again so lucky to have a very supportive partner. He is in it from sun up to way past sun down and he keeps saying it out loud too. He’s like, “We’re such a good team.” And I’m getting emotional saying that because I just know that that isn’t always the case for a lot of people out there, especially in a newborn phase. It is so tough. Sleep deprivation is real. You may have different parenting styles too, which makes arguments come into play. And for us, we just feed off one another. And since the beginning, I’ve had this term transfer of energy. If it’s not working with him and Nora, then he hands her to me. And that transfer of energy is real. And vice versa, if she’s not taking to me or my energy, I pass her off to her dad and it goes better. So it’s all an experiment.

Leslie in the 24/7 Feeding Jumpsuit and The Nursing Robe.

Self-care?

A lot of baths. I love a good bath. I do feel like the water takes off all the fire I tend to have— I’m a Leo after all and have a ton of fire in me. I’m just go, go, go. The water always kind of cooled me off and calmed me down. I feel like I’ve transferred that to Nora as well. That’s just another activity we love to do together is take baths. Self-care is a constant work in progress.

Advice for new moms?

Know that it’s okay to ask for help. In the beginning, the first few weeks, I think we tried to do it all. And even though my parents were here and they would constantly be over doing things for us, bringing over meals, I would always still have that trouble asking. The words would never leave my lips— ‘Can you help?’ So I think it’s important to know that it’s certainly okay to ask for help, whether that is from a family member, a friend, or somebody in your community. I know not every support group looks the same.

What’s the Deal with Maternity Photoshoots? Maternity Photoshoots: Passé or on Point?

Maternity photoshoots are a big deal. They’re no longer reserved for walls and tabletops in the home as more women use social media to post and share gorgeous photos of a beautiful and intimate part of their lives. Like so many other forms of art, maternity photoshoots capture a turning point in peoples’ lives. It makes you wonder whether this is just a trend or something more.

Pregnancy in Art

Artistic depictions of pregnant women used to be an underrepresented field, but now it’s booming and doing so with resounding applause. While notable portraits of pregnant women from 200 years ago are not topping the charts of online search histories, Beyonce’s pregnancy shoot remains one of the most-liked photographs on social media.

What was this icon’s costume in her modern work of art? A set of mismatched intimates and an unornamented, daffodil-yellow veil. Queen Bey ostensibly opened the doors to a new age of maternity photoshoots for many celebrities, but what about you? Is your maternity shoot still worthwhile without media attention? The answer to that is a resounding yes, of course.

A Sense of Worth

Maternity shoots allow women to celebrate remarkable changes, even if they don’t think they have a “glow.” Every woman can admire her incredible, ever-changing body out in the open, and they don’t actually have to pose nude or nearly nude in their shots to show it.

You can have a stunning maternity shoot wearing stylish, everyday maternity dresses, sweet maternity pants, and other well-designed maternity clothing. The photos will still get this message across: you are proud of your body, and you are going to love that baby even when they drive you to the brink of insanity. A maternity shoot allows you to look back on a time of your life that was different or challenging and see something valuable—something worthy of respect. If your outfit helps you do that, then more power to you, mama.

Trendy or Timeless

While it could feel like you now have to do a maternity shoot because it’s trendy and all your friends are doing it, you should know that a maternity shoot is not mandatory, and if you do go for it, the occasion shouldn’t be stressful. It is undoubtedly a trend, but it’s also supposed to be a part of your experience. That’s right—it’s yours.

You can enjoy pictures from all your trimesters without an elaborate shoot as well. You can still be grateful for what you have accomplished, and there will definitely be pictures of your beautiful, pregnant self in some charming and stylish maternity clothing. Plus, you have a choice to document your pregnancy however you please, with pregnancy journals, everyday photos, scrapbooks, letters to your baby, videos, and many other mediums.

Maternity photoshoots might sometimes feel a little much, but why does that matter? Through maternity photos, expectant families can connect, share their favorite maternity dresses and brands, capture a unique time of life, and they get to talk about it all. It sounds a lot like other kinds of art, doesn’t it? While these photos represent a major turning point in your life, you should never feel forced to do something extravagant. You can cheer those other mamas on and be content to keep your stylish maternity clothes to yourself. That’s fine, too.

Add it to Your Self-Care Routine: the Belly Facial (Yep, it's a thing.)

By Babe | Images courtesy of HATCH

Warm baths, spa pedicures, prenatal massages. These are just a few self-care moments getting you through pregnancy. Well, it’s time to add another one to your list, and this one you can do right in your bathroom. Welcome to the dawn of the belly facial, a multi-step system to exfoliate, nourish and smooth your belly (and relieve stretch marks and tight, itchy skin) featuring some key products from HATCH MAMA, our totally clean, mama and baby-safe lineup of luxe, feel good beauty items We even added two new products to the list. Our Smooth + Nourish TK.

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1. SMOOTH: Apply Smooth Scrub, a creamy polishing treatment for exfoliation, and replenish sensitive, hormonal skin with a blend of nutrient-rich butters and oils. 

2. MASK: Hydrate the belly with this biodegradable (and actually pretty cute) sheet mask that helps minimize the appearance of stretch marks and scars.

3. BELLY OIL: This is the OG. The Superstar. The Icon. Finish your facial off with a bestselling, quick-drying botanical belly oil that’s got all of you fan-girling for good reason.

And now for a little zen-inducing ASMR moment with our new Smooth Scrub….

With Healthy, Delicious, At-Home Meals, Territory is Giving You One More Hour in the Day Peep our interview with CEO Ellis McCue.

By Babe | All photos courtesy of Territory

Imagine a life where you just nursed your infant for the 1,000th time that day and, because you’re constantly starving, you walk over to the fridge, open it and discover a treasure trove of delicious, nutritious, filling meals that are ready to eat in less than two minutes.  Or perhaps you’re a working mom, back in the swing. Once you’ve fed your ravenous toddler you need to figure out what you’re going to eat. And boom—you’ve got a fridge stocked with ready-to-eat meals that check every box on the parenting list. No, this isn’t some twisted fantasy, it’s actually the work of  Territory Foods, a curated marketplace of better-for-you meals that connects local, health-forward chefs, restaurants, and culinary entrepreneurs to consumers with an appetite for healthy food, like you and your family.

Territory’s mission is to make eating better, easier. Its chefs and partners work with Territory’s team of dietitians to prepare responsibly sourced, nutrient-rich meals from scratch that taste incredible, all powered by customer data and science-backed nutrition. Territory’s ever-rotating menus feature fresh, non-inflammatory ingredients that optimize whole-body health, support a wide variety of preferences, and have a minimal environmental impact. And because their meals are prepared by chefs across the country working in their own kitchens, every Territory meal you buy is an investment in your community. 

We sat down with Territory chief executive officer, Ellis McCue, a health-tech executive known for her foundational work in the “food as medicine” space. She’s on a mission to revolutionize the meal delivery category for busy families so that we can give ourselves another hour in the day doing what we love, or maybe just doing us. Here’s what she had to say.

What sets Territory apart from other services offering similar products?

The company was founded in 2010 at the height of the Paleo movement. There was this pivotal shift in healthy eating, and we started to see a decline in traditional weight-loss programs like the South Beach diet. Paleo was different. It was all about what you’re putting in your body and feeling good, not about losing weight. So we set out to be focused on real food, not processed food. It was the concept of clean eating. Part of the reason why I came to Territory was because I was watching the trend early, and it was in line with how I was living in terms of my own health. 

I saw that Territory was, and is, doing something different. While similar brands use central commissary food factories, Territory is unique in that our network of chefs produces the meals within our local communities. Meaning, the food you receive in NYC or DC, comes directly from our chefs in those communities.We wanted quality products for our consumer. I love to eat Territory, and if we can find a way to bring healthy food to the customer, drive convenience, and make it delicious, that’s a winning model. We want to change the world through healthy food. Our staff dieticians work in concert with our network of chefs. No one else comes close to that.

 

Territory Foods

How does your being a mother influence Territory and its approach?

I will say that the moment you become a mother, everything changes. As a businesswoman, I wasn’t expecting it. But the best thing about being a mom is that suddenly you have superhuman capabilities for prioritization. Becoming a mom underscored the value of Territory. It made it a stickier concept to me. Every mom should eat Territory postpartum and pre-birth as well. These phases are moments of insane friction. Your body’s changing, there are tons of hormones and emotions coursing through you. Territory offers a way to stay on track and stay healthy. You finish a Territory meal feeling full. Being a mom made me much more aware of and empathetic toward our customers who are new parents. It’s such an interesting, transformative moment. Also, our executive team is 60 percent female, so we have a lot of moms to provide first-hand knowledge on ways to continuously improve.

What do you hear the most from your family clients, and what issues are you looking to solve for busy families?

As our customer base started expanding, we received questions about women’s health and how food impacts the body. Again, it’s not about weight loss, but longevity. Territory has a goal to make sure pre-and postpartum women have the nutrients they need through this stage of life. On top of that, busy families are always trying to have it all. And the biggest problem new moms have—and all moms, frankly—is a tremendous amount of guilt and responsibility. The majority of our customers are working professionals, so now they have another thing on their plate. Everyone is looking for things to make their life easier. We offer convenience and high quality. I feed my two-year-old Territory every single night. If I can take the hour I was going to stress about making food for my family and reinvest it in myself, or play with my toddler instead of cooking for her, that’s super powerful.

How does Territory go beyond food?

Territory is rooted in relationships. I want us to be part of something bigger than a purchase transaction. I want us to build a better world. Territory serves as a marketplace, offering the tools, resources, and loyal customer base for local chefs and restaurants to expand without compromising on quality and taste. Our diverse network of chefs and restaurants is 36 percent BIPOC or Latina-owned businesses and 42 percent are female-owned. The industry average is seven percent. So when you buy from Territory, you’re also supporting a more equitable restaurant industry. Our model allows us to create jobs that help communities flourish and build a stronger middle class. Our responsibility is to our customers and communities, and to building a better economy and a better world. We’re focused on sustainability, the environment, health and wellness, the economy—all of it! And we’re dedicated to our working parents. There’s freedom in taking an extra hour to reinvest in yourself. We’re part of the team keeping families on track and keeping them happy.

This article was written in partnership with Territory Foods.

WTF is a Mucus Plug? No like seriously.

By Babe | Illustration by Ana Hard

During those last few weeks of pregnancy, you’re just jonesing for a sign of WHEN, OH WHEN you might go into labor, and sadly there are very few to be had until it’s go time. The passing of your mucus plug could be considered one such sign, but not always.

Your mucus plug is, as it sounds, a little plug of mucus that builds up at the cervix throughout your pregnancy.

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It actually blocks the opening of your cervix during pregnancy and forms a seal to prevent bacteria and infection from getting into your uterus and reaching your baby. Think of it as a barrier between your vagina and your uterus. You will lose the plug as your cervix begins to dilate (open) and efface (soften and thin) in preparation for labor.

When your cervix begins dilating, the plug might drop into your vagina and appear as a pink or slightly bloody little glob. Chic, right? This “passing of” the plug (most likely into the toilet when you go to pee) might be considered a sign that labor is on the horizon, at the very latest one to two weeks away, which is basically like next year. Most women don’t lose their mucus plug until after 37 weeks of pregnancy. In some cases, losing the mucus plug happens days or weeks before your baby’s due date.

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If you lose your mucus plug sooner than 37 weeks of pregnancy, contact your healthcare provider as a precaution.
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What does mucus plug discharge look like?

  • Clear, off-white or slightly bloody (red, brown or pink) in color.
  • Stringy, sticky and jelly-like in texture.
  • 1 to 2 inches in length.
  • 1 to 2 tablespoons in volume.
  • Odorless

Just remember, you may or may not lose your mucus plug before you give birth, and even if you do, that may or may not indicate that you’ll go into labor ASAP. Like everything else with childbirth, it’s a wait and see situation. So just be patient, and this too shall, ahem, pass.

I Don't Want to Make Mom Friends (Do I have to?)

By Babe | Illustration by Ana Hard

When Piper S., took her baby to the playground for the first time, she was surprised by the experience. What she expected would be a milestone moment filled with laughter, play and lots of photos of her baby girl on her first swing, instead turned into a trip racked with anxiety and dread.

“I discovered all of these little mom pockets filled with clusters of women chatting and laughing with each other,” said Piper, a part-time graphic designer based in Brooklyn. “I’m sure I could have gone up and introduced myself, but I just didn’t feel like saying hello or joining the group, and now I feel like there’s something wrong with me.”

Ohhh mom friends – those women who exist solely to accompany you on the journey of motherhood. You’ll text them all night regarding your baby’s feeding and nap schedule, about sleep regressions and whether or not those bumps around their mouth is actually impetigo – women who you may have nothing in common with outside your little lumps of love but who have suddenly become central to your existence. Are they totally necessary? It depends.

“I never bothered to make ‘mom friends’ because I happened to be pregnant at or around the same time as my college friends, so we all transitioned into mom friends together,” said Lindsay F., a full-time mama who lives on Long Island.

But for the rest of us, those who might not have a fully baked out “mom crew,” the anxiety of making mom friends might outweigh the joy of having them, at least for some women. It’s like sleep-away camp all over again, and that’s stressful.

“As hard as this can feel when you have a newborn, being part of a community decreases isolation which can lead to anxiety and depression,” says Jacqueline Furst, a therapist based in New York. “But meeting friends at any new stage in our lives is challenging and can be anxiety provoking. It can also stir up feelings from past experiences of how hard it is to make new friends. Again, all normal!”

If you’re ready to branch out, Furst recommends starting slow. Try visiting a local park with a coffee and sit next to a mom who also has a newborn in a stroller. You can also ask your pediatrician if they run a new moms group or take your baby to a music or yoga class. “If you find yourself really overwhelmed with these ideas, find a therapist to talk to in order to process past experiences and come up with a concrete plan to start socializing,” says Furst.

Just remember, mom friends can be life-changing. It’s this kind of community outside of family that can ground us in our motherhood journey. As Furst says, “Friends support our mental health while we support our newborns and families.”

Jenna Kutcher On juggling it all and keeping it real.

By Babe | Photos by Angela Rose Gonzalez

Jenna Kutcher is not the kind of woman you can sum up in an Instagram bio. The Minnesota native has carved out a career and life that is nothing short of inspirational. In fact, if inspiring can be a job description, that might narrow it down. She’s a CEO, the host of buzzy podcast, Goaldigger, mom of one (with number two on the way), a wife, an influencer, a creative, a body positivity advocate, and an educator. Some of those words are more specific than others, but they all add up to work that empowers other women. Below, this mama gets real about the juggle, the path to pregnancy, and living a life of grace and gratitude.

How are you feeling?

The words I’d use today are: I’m feeling stretched but happy. This is a season of both literal (hi, belly) and figurative stretching and growth. Just when I think there’s no more room for expansion, no space for “more,” I am somehow stretched to accommodate the growth.

This is a time where I enjoy every moment I can with my big baby while her sibling is still getting ready to join us topside. Where I’m juggling a business on one hip, a toddler on the other, with a growing bump in between. It’s a season of nesting and preparation both at work and in the home. Deep rest and meaningful work on all fronts. Frankly, I’m honored I get to participate in the juggle at all. I’m reminded of how resilient we can be as humans. The stretch marks symbolize something quite beautiful to me: growth.

So while I’m navigating a crazy, blessed, exhausting, exhilarating season filled with expectation, I’m savoring each moment in the present, doing my best to be as awake as possible to the life I’m living right now. And to stay encouraged about the life I’m still creating and continuing to let life stretch me as I grow.

What are your plans for going from 1-2?

Beyond some of the logistical things like making my daughter Coco a “big girl room” to free up the nursery, my plan is just to let things unfold as they will. That kind of mantra has always been a de-stressor for me. I’m excited to approach each stage knowing what I know now, how everything is so fleeting and temporary. We’ll definitely have to tag team things a bit more having a busy toddler this time around, but truly, I’m staying open and doing my best to savor every moment as they come.

What have your paths to pregnancy been like?

Whew, it hasn’t been easy to say the least. Our journey to our daughter was a three year one that included two miscarriages. It was a really dark season for us and, at times, hopeless. I can only now look back and see how we learned through those losses and how we worked to build the life we have today while we were in that season of waiting.

After our losses, I took a lot of time to heal my heart and to heal my body and I believe that what I learned through the process and the changes that I made (and have stuck with) have helped me with these two pregnancies.

How has pregnancy been different this time around?

It’s wild how similar and different this pregnancy has been. I was pretty sick with both pregnancies for the first part, super tired, all the normal things. It felt like I was pregnant with Coco for four years straight! Time went so slow, while this one feels like it’s flying by so quickly. I think the biggest difference is that this time I’m chasing around a toddler and I can’t just work from bed or nap whenever. It’s definitely been a bit more challenging on my body but overall, I’m just so thankful for the gift of pregnancy and for the fact that I get to go through this experience again.

How do you juggle running an empire, being pregnant and taking care of your daughter?

Is it bad that I’m laughing at this question? Because I’ve sat back and wondered the very same thing sometimes. It looks a lot like prioritizing a few roles and not letting anything else cheat or steal my time away from me. Success to me is being able to get my daughter up in the morning and spend time with her and put her to bed every night. For a long time I worried that I’d have to choose between motherhood and being a CEO and I’m grateful that I went for both. It’s hard, but it’s not impossible. I’m incredibly fortunate that my husband is a stay-at-home dad (and an exceptional one at that) which allows me to focus on work each day, but I also love being a mom so much that if I hear them giggling in the next room, it’s impossible to stay away. I’ve given myself a ton of grace and set boundaries which I’ve stuck to, so that I’m not overworking or missing this time while my daughter is our only child.

What do you wish you could go back and tell yourself (or tell a new mom now!) as they enter this phase?

The most beautiful and challenging thing about motherhood is that it is all temporary. The sleepless nights? The adult diapers? The breastfeeding woes? Temporary. So are the tiny coos, the snuggles, and curled up fingers, it is all fleeting. It’s easy to wish away certain stages but I challenge you to will yourself to live them fully. All the silly clichés from the embroidered pillows are true and it’s a blessing to get to live them out and realize that.

Give yourself grace, trust that you can slow down, hit that break pedal without forgetting where the gas pedal is, and give yourself the gift of releasing expectations so that you can lean into your intuition and that instinct you didn’t even know existed. It’s all waiting for you, just close your eyes.

How did you tell your daughter she was getting a sibling?

I wish I had a really cute story but I was just too excited. My husband had gone to the gym in the morning and I woke up and took a test alone. I was worried it would be negative or that I was too early and when I saw the word “pregnant” I cried at the kitchen counter. When he got home, I wrapped up the test in a leftover newborn diaper and had my daughter hand it to him. (Looking back, that’s definitely a weird way to share it with him, but can I blame pregnancy brain and excitement?) He opened it up and then started hugging our daughter saying, “You’re going to be a big sister!” I don’t think she fully understood at the time, but now we’ve been reading a ton of books and talking about the baby a lot and she’s getting it and is excited about it!

You are very outspoken about body image. Did pregnancy and postpartum change your relationship with your body in any way?

Absolutely, without a doubt. Body image has threaded its way through every single part of my life and career. It’s something I’m not only open about, but I’m passionate about creating space for the conversation. After our miscarriages, I struggled deeply with feeling like my body had failed me, and with hating my body. It took a full year of healing to even believe that my body was capable of carrying a baby to term. I realized that it wasn’t just about my body– it was about my beliefs around my body’s purpose and value. I was tempted to pull myself out of the race before I had even touched the starting line because fear trapped me in a cycle of focusing solely on my past experiences. After having my daughter, I found that I fell more in love with my body after the entire experience and seeing how our bodies can support life and create miracles. I felt like I finally came home to my body in a way I hadn’t previously.

Were you prepared for that?

Anytime our bodies go through a transformation, I think we expect to feel a certain way about it. While pregnancy is a gift, it also brings us through challenges, and the media and the messaging about women’s bodies and postpartum bodies can leave us grappling with what we see in our reflections.

Having a daughter, I’m challenged daily not only in the routines of parenting, but also in helping her craft an inner narrative that is positive, loving, and filled with grace. As I explore the dreams I have for her and what she thinks about herself, her body, and her autonomy, I’m equally challenged to check myself and ensure that I’m loving myself and my body the way I hope she loves hers.

Pregnancy always brings up insecurity with everyone’s commentary on your body and I definitely struggle with how much my body changes, but I also know how right it feels. It’s a worthwhile struggle because I see the gift beneath it all. My biggest reminder is that self love isn’t a destination, it’s a daily choice, and so I do my best to choose to love myself and this body every day even when it doesn’t come easily.

Maternity Leave?

I am planning to take 12 weeks off and I’m so grateful that I am able to do that. I have a team of women who help me run my business and we’ve been diligently working ahead so that rest is possible. I’m also entering this leave with a different approach than my last one. When Coco came, I was surprised by how much she slept and I wasn’t prepared for what it would feel like to not be working (a very weird feeling for entrepreneurs!) So this time around, I’m ensuring that I don’t have to do anything but if I want to do something, I can jump on and do it.

We’ll also be fleeing the freezing Minnesota winters and heading to sunny Arizona for a few months and I’m so thrilled because my parents and grandparents will also be down south with us so I’m looking forward to cherishing that time with my family!

Jenna in the Cozy Waffle Dress.

Self-care?

Ohhh, self-care! Such a great topic these days. I really think that self-care during pregnancy has more to do with checking in with yourself and asking for help and support when you need it. Another thing I have to stress: self-care looks different for every single person. While candles and face masks might work for some, maybe a walk in nature or a nap works for others! Two things I do: listen to guided meditations in the shower (seriously, trust me here) and let my skincare routine feel like a mini-spa trip, not something you rush through.

How has becoming a parent affected your relationship with your husband?

The silly cliches are true and you do fall more in love with your partner when you see them as a parent! Given our fertility journey and Drew’s calling to want to be a stay-at-home-dad, watching him get to fully live out his dreams in doing that has been the greatest gift. We definitely have become a better team, better communicators, and being parents have challenged us to have a lot of conversations about how we were raised and how we want to raise our children.  

What are the biggest lessons you want to teach your children?

There are a million things I want to instill in my children, the greatest three being: kindness, empathy, and emotional intelligence. I want my kids to lead their lives with kindness, to have deep empathy for others that influences their actions, and to know that it’s okay to feel their feelings and express them in safe ways!

Advice for moms and moms-to-be?

Everything about parenting is temporary—this is the blessing and the curse of being a parent. The sleepless nights, the cries, the healing postpartum body, all temporary. On the flip side: the cuddles, the hand-holding, the middle-of-the-night breastfeeding sessions, also temporary. Motherhood is an act of constantly surrendering to the fact that it is all temporary and fleeting, so do your best to not wish it away, it all goes by so fast! 

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