What Your Sex Toy Reveals About You The big, the small, and that. one that doesn't exist yet.
By Babe | Illustration by Ana Hard
In celebration of our recent launch, let’s venture into the enchanting world of sex toys, specifically vibrators. These intimate pleasure tools are not just for your enjoyment but can also reflect your personality and desires – essential during your pregnancy journey. Let’s unravel the deep meanings behind your vibrator choices and how they mirror your unique persona.
The Big Vibrator
If your go-to vibrator is a sizable one, like the popular Magic Wand Original, you’re someone who prefers bold, direct experiences. A large vibrator user typically doesn’t shy away from claiming their space, whether in life or in their romantic encounters.
Confidence, assertiveness, and an unapologetic pursuit of your desires characterize you. When it comes to life, you believe in the adage: “Go big or go home.”
Your go-to motto: Size matters because I matter.
The Small Vibrator
If you’re drawn to more discreet, petite vibrators, such as the renowned We-Vibe Tango, this suggests that you value subtlety and finesse. Fans of small vibrators are often detail-oriented, cherishing the nuances of experiences and understanding that size doesn’t dictate satisfaction. You’re likely someone who highly values privacy and recognizes the power of small details that make a substantial difference. In your life philosophy, less is more, and you’ve mastered the art of finding immense pleasure in small packages.
Your go-to motto: Embrace the power of small things.
The Perfect Collaboration
For those who choose the Dame x HATCH vibrator, you’re someone who values the blend of aesthetics and functionality. This choice suggests that you appreciate thoughtfully designed products that cater to your needs and are visually pleasing. You believe in the power of collaboration and innovation, and you’re not afraid to invest in quality.
Your go-to motto: Quality and design make the perfect match.
The Vibrator That Doesn’t Exist Yet
Are you still seeking the perfect vibrator that seems to only exist in your fantasies? This shows you’re a dreamer, an imaginative soul who isn’t easily satisfied with the ordinary. You set high standards and will patiently wait for what you truly desire. You’re a visionary, constantly picturing the next big innovation. This also implies a deep sense of adventure and a yearning for exploration in your sexual journey.
Your go-to motto: The perfect pleasure is worth the wait.
The realm of sex toys, mainly vibrators, is as diverse and unique as the individuals who use them. Whether you’re drawn to the big vibrator, the small vibrator, or you’re waiting for that perfect vibrator that doesn’t exist yet, it’s all about what makes you feel empowered and fulfilled.
Choosing a vibrator is not just about picking a pleasure tool; it’s also about choosing a mirror to your unique soul. In the spirit of sex positivity, we celebrate all desires and choices. There’s no right or wrong, big or small, real or imaginary — only what brings you joy and satisfaction. So, here’s to love, pleasure, and embracing our true selves, one vibrator at a time!
6 Erotic Novels to Ignite Your Maternity Journey Because sometimes words are all you need.
By Photo by HATCH
Alright, buckle up, mamas! We’re about to embark on a wild ride through the steamy world of erotic novels. You heard that right. Pregnancy is a time of intense physical and emotional changes, and what better way to embrace this transformative period than by exploring the tantalizing realm of erotic fiction?
Earlier this year we partnered with Dame, a brand revolutionizing how we approach motherhood and sexuality. So with that in mind… sit back, prop up those oh-so-swollen feet, and let’s dive into the six of our favorite erotic novels that are perfect for those hormone-fueled months of pregnancy. Whether you’re a first-time mom or a seasoned pro, these erotic novels promise to add a sprinkle of spice to your maternity journey.
Let’s add a little rom-com energy into the mix. “Fix Her Up” is the first book in the Hot & Hammered series by Tessa Bailey. The story revolves around Georgie Castle, the youngest sibling in her family who is struggling to be taken seriously, and her crush, Travis Ford, a retired baseball player, who is back in town. Their relationship develops from fake to real, and the book offers plenty of spicy, sexy scenes to keep your pulse racing. What sets this novel apart is Bailey’s knack for balancing hilarious moments with seriously hot romance. It’s like watching your favorite rom-com movie, but with more steam and a strong-willed female lead you can root for. This one’s a real home run for all you expecting mamas who enjoy laughter as much as lust in your steamy reads.
If you’re looking for a book that’s as classy as it is sexy, “Delta of Venus” is your ticket. Anaïs Nin, the queen of literary erotica, serves up a smorgasbord of short stories that explore the many flavors of sexuality. Each story is a journey into a different facet of eroticism, making it an ideal read for those looking to explore their sensuality during pregnancy. The stories are beautifully written, with Nin’s poetic language adding a layer of sophistication to the erotic content. Think of it as the caviar of erotica – fancy and a little bit salty.
Welcome to the Crossfire series, where the men are hotties, the women are strong, and the sex scenes are HOT. “Bared to You” tells the story of Eva Tramell and Gideon Cross, two individuals battling their own inner demons while trying to maintain an intensely passionate relationship. The book is filled with steamy scenes and emotional exchanges that will keep you hooked. It’s like a soap opera, but with way more sex and way less hospital scenes.
I’m sorry, I’m sorry! But, come on, you knew we couldn’t not include it. Love it or hate it, “Fifty Shades of Grey” has earned its place in the erotic novel hall of fame. The story of Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey is one of passion, control, and exploration. While it has its critics, the book’s explicit scenes and emotional depth make it a captivating read during pregnancy (or during, well, not pregnancy). Plus, it’s always fun to imagine what you’d do if a billionaire with a flair for BDSM came into your life.
If you’re in the mood for something a little more… avant-garde, “The Sexual Life of Catherine M.” is the book for you. This memoir by French art critic Catherine Millet is a frank and detailed account of her sexual experiences. It’s a bold exploration of female sexuality that doesn’t shy away from explicit descriptions. (By the way, that was your warning.) The book is a testament to the power of sexual freedom and self-expression. Think of it like a trip to a modern art museum, but instead of staring at an abstract painting pretending to understand it, you’re reading about orgies.
Last but not least, we have “Laid Bare,” the first in the Brown Family series by Lauren Dane. It tells the story of Erin Brown, a strong, independent woman who isn’t afraid to explore her desires. The book combines romance, eroticism, and emotional depth in a way that is both engaging and empowering. It’s like a rom-com, but with way more sex and way less unrealistic expectations about love.
And there you have it, future mamas! We’ve curated a list of six steamy novels to add a dash of spice to your pregnancy journey. These erotic books are perfect for those moments when you need a little distraction or a boost of excitement during your pregnancy. Whether you’re seeking a thrilling read for those long prenatal appointments, a spicy distraction during those restless nights, or simply a way to embrace your ever-changing relationship with sexuality, these novels are here to keep you company. Happy reading, mamas!
The Benefits of FRANKIE4 Shoes for Moms-to-Be Discover your pregnancy stride.
By Photos by FRANKIE4
This article was written in partnership with FRANKIE4. Use the code “HATCH40″ to redeem $40 off your pair of FRANKIE4 shoes through August 1st.
Pregnancy is an exciting journey filled with glowing skin, lustrous hair, and…oh wait, did anyone mention how it takes a toll on your poor, unsuspecting feet? Well, fear not, because we’ve got your back (or rather, your feet) covered with FRANKIE4 shoes.! We know that comfort is key, but who says you can’t have style too? FRANKIE4 shoes are not only scientifically designed to provide exceptional support and comfort, but they also make you look fabulous while doing it. Say goodbye to foot-related issues and hello to happy feet throughout your pregnancy.
Here, we chat with Cathy Barnett, FRANKIE4’s CEO of North America, and look at some of the amazing features that make FRANKIE4 shoes the perfect choice for expectant mamas everywhere.
How do FRANKIE4 shoes provide support and comfort to expecting mothers during pregnancy?
I remember when I was expecting my daughter and the one thing others never warned me about was how hard it was going to be on my feet, and how much they would change after having her. I really wished I had a shoe offering that wasn’t just comfortable but actually supportive and scientifically good for me. We believe that health is a long-term investment wherever you are on your journey; that’s why our pairs are designed to provide exceptional heel, arch, and forefoot support, without sacrificing style. Our footbed and layered support and cushion systems are at the core of our creations. It’s this innovation in style that means our pairs are equipped to be worn all day, any day. And for new mothers, that means a lot!
What features of FRANKIE4 shoes make them an ideal choice for moms-to-be experiencing foot-related issues?
We know that health issues can come up when we’re pregnant. One example is pregnancy-induced plantar fasciitis (caused by the chronic strain of the plantar fascia, a fibrous band that helps support the arch of the foot). Other potential health concerns include decreased joint stability, weakened muscle strength, and the effects of the hormone relaxin, which can cause pain in the hips, knees, and back as the body changes throughout pregnancy.
It’s the technology in our pairs that makes FRANKIE4’s a great choice for moms-to-be. Our renowned footbed, expertly balanced heel counters, and precisely placed foam lining are just some of the design features our pairs are engineered to address these needs. This technology aids in our pairs’ ability to help rule out the need for any wear-in period and relieve pressure and rubbing.
How can FRANKIE4 shoes improve posture and reduce the risk of falls for pregnant women?
Throughout pregnancy, health will be your sole focus—and this now extends to your feet. Some of the biggest concerns are slipping and posture. To help give more support, many of our pairs are fitted with slip-resistant soles, and you can find details on our website. Our podiatrist-designed technology also helps support your ideal posture as you move through your day.
In what ways do FRANKIE4 shoes cater to the changing needs of a woman’s feet throughout pregnancy?
We love to say, “think of your feet as sisters, not twins!” and this is never more true than during the journey of pregnancy. That’s why FRANKIE4 enables women to customize their fit with our Sole Saver Pack™, which comes in every box of our sneakers, boots, and most of our flats. This pack includes ingenious components that can be swapped out for your perfect fit, whether narrow, regular, or wide, without having to opt for a specific fitting shoe. It can also be accommodated as the feet change throughout pregnancy to what’s most comfortable for each foot.
What sets FRANKIE4 shoes apart from other footwear options regarding pregnant women’s well-being?
Over the past decade, the market has offered the consumer the construct of ‘customization’ in many different categories, including beauty and supplements. So many categories have been ‘disrupted’ with a focus on personalization to create products for your specific needs, but I hadn’t seen anyone do this with perhaps one of the most essential categories for overall physical wellness, footwear. Your feet can change when you’re pregnant and might affect your entire body, including your posture, and spinal health. With our Sole Saver Pack™ you can customize your fit as your feet change and know that you’re getting cushioning, cradling, and support while not having to compromise your style.
How can moms-to-be choose the right FRANKIE4 shoe style to suit their lifestyle and personal preferences during pregnancy?
Our wide collection ensures a pair of FRANKIE4s for all moments throughout your day. From sneakers to dress flats, boots to heels—and incredibly comfortable slides to slip into after a long day. Our advice, then, would be to invest in classic styles that leave you feeling great, celebrate your signature style, and make the most of our Sole Saver Pack™ to pamper yourself a little bit more during this incredible time of your life.
This article was written in partnership with FRANKIE4. Use the code “HATCH40″ to redeem $40 off your pair of FRANKIE4 shoes through August 1st.
Dame's Al Fine Takes Us On An Unapologetic Journey Through sexuality & motherhood.
By Ruthie Friedlander | Photos by Marcus Middleton
In an unflinching exploration of sexuality, pleasure, and motherhood, we delve into the candid world of Dame’s founder, the genuinely one-of-a-kind Al Fine. Here, we strip down the barriers of conventional discussion, broadening our understanding of the physical and emotional changes during pregnancy and how these shifts can affect intimacy and self-perception. At the intersection of feminism, entrepreneurship, and parenthood, Al offers an authentic perspective, merging the realms of sexuality and motherhood that are often kept apart.
As the driving force behind Dame, a company centered on “the pleasure gap,” Al sheds light on their journey through the lens of sex and pregnancy, setting the stage for a conversation often shied away from. Al’s story goes beyond the products Dame offers, diving into the deeper societal structures and misconceptions that stand in the way of women’s pleasure and agency.
Al! How are you feeling?
I’ve been feeling very pregnant. I’ve been really trying to appreciate it because I will soon not be pregnant, and who knows—maybe I’ll never be pregnant again. There are things that are cool about it, but mostly, if I could never be pregnant again, that sounds pretty good. I would be into that.
This is your second pregnancy. How is this one different from your first one?
I’ve been more uncomfortable in general, physically speaking. But I think the second time around, [my partner and I are] both enjoying my pregnancy form more. He tells me that I look beautiful, and he loves my belly every day. I don’t think he did that as much the first time around. I think we’re more aware that it’s fleeting.
[My first pregnancy] I had a belly birth—that’s my way of saying C-Section. I’m hoping this time to do a vaginal delivery. That will also be different and have different implications for my body.
What was your experience like during pregnancy in terms of sex drive?
I’m still pissed that I didn’t get that libido [boost]! I guess that was surprising to me. Maybe it’s because I’ve been waiting on bated breath for it, like: am I going to get horny? I think there’s this misconception that because I love sex, I have a lot of sex. I do not have a lot of sex – and becoming a parent has definitely made sex harder to find time to have. I think it really does change the dynamics. I’ve never felt closer to my partner ever in my entire life. We are such a phenomenal partnership and phenomenal team.
But it’s hard to get in the mood after watching 30 videos of our child. And that’s what you’re going to do, you know? You’ll watch your kid until you’re sick of them. But then, one minute later, you take out your phone and start looking at videos of this human you’ve created. It’s amazing, but it’s not very sexy to think about having sex and having my daughter crying simultaneously. All those things are a little hard to navigate.
So given that, what do you think is the role of masturbation during pregnancy?
For a few weeks while I was sick, every time my husband tried to initiate, I was like, fuck you. I think masturbation gives you a way of connecting with your own pleasure. There’s so much hormonally going on there. Solo play will always be easier to access than partnered play. Whether it’s because of timing or scheduling or because it’s easier to connect with your body without considering a second person, it’s a lot easier.
If you’re pregnant and you decide you’re not going to masturbate at all, if you have no libido, that’s totally fine. There is nothing wrong with that. Everybody’s libido really shifts. Many women, not me, report having an increased libido, especially in their second trimester. Your blood volume doubles, meaning extra blood is in all the juicy parts. Connecting with yourself and reminding yourself that you’re a sexual being is fantastic.
It feels good to feel sexual. It feels good to feel your confidence in that way. And, of course, I like solo play. Masturbation can be a fantastic way of staying connected to sexuality. I also think it’s good to stay sensationally connected to our vaginas because we will have a lot of sensations there. Serotonin and oxytocin, the neurotransmitters, they’re good for our brains. They’re good for babies, too. It’s a relaxer. I think having those things in our bodies is positive all around.
Do you have any postpartum sex tips?
Nap times are the time. I’m about to have my second, and one of my friends mentioned that I’m about to not have the same nap schedule between my two kids. I was like, f*ck, you’re totally right. As for tips, I would say take your time. Remind your partner that there are other ways of having sex besides vaginal penetration, which would be very heteronormative now. But for the heteronormative couples, men don’t seem to remember that there’s non-penetrative sex.
Like…?
He can touch your clitoris, he can lick your clitoris, you can suck on his penis, you can touch his penis with your hands. Massage can be very erotic. I think foreplay is very limiting because foreplay could be midplay to after play. It could be the middle of the day texting and sexting. Just reminding each other that you still find each other sexy in this way.
I’ve found my husband being a loving father to be the hottest thing ever. My new kink is men being like: “Hey, babe, do you want me to take Charlie home so you can stay at the party?” I saw my friend’s husband do that and thought that it was so sexy.
[At Dame], we’ve been doing Mother’s Day campaigns since our first year in business. I remember people thinking I was crazy. At that point, I wasn’t a mother yet. My team was thinking and talking about their moms. And yes, their moms, too—your mom is a sexual being and does deserve pleasure and joy.
I think what’s truly beautiful about motherhood is the way you put others, especially your child’s needs in front of yours. That is beautiful, but it’s what you’re reduced to. Why are women constantly putting other people’s needs first and not their own? Their needs are also important. It should be a balance, and it’s all about reminding them that we give men so much freedom in their sexuality throughout all their life stages. We don’t necessarily give that to women. Women only have that in their maiden stage.
That gets into what you at Dame refer to as “the pleasure gap,” right?
Women are four times more likely to say that sex is not at all pleasurable. So much research points to the idea that cis-heterosexual women have way less sexual pleasure than their male counterparts. One of the most powerful ways of understanding gender inequality is who feels entitled to pleasure. Seeing how large that gap is, I think it’s related to power. It is pretty concerning.
It’s also directly related to education and our understanding of sex. If you ask most people what sex is, how do you know if you had sex, they’re going to tell you if the penis was in the vagina, you’ve had sex. How do you know sex is over? The penis ejaculates. Our whole story around what sex is is a story about a penis.
When women talk about having bad sex or being sexually harassed or in pain, all those things are because women’s pleasure is not viewed as important. If you go to the doctor and say you’re having pain, it takes seven years to get a diagnosis of endometriosis. That’s crazy. We just aren’t prioritizing pleasure. And that’s even harder when you’re pregnant.
I can imagine that’s even more so the case when you’re running a business.
As far as working and pregnancy go, my big hot takes are:
The idea that we don’t talk about our first trimester. If you don’t want to share it, that’s totally fine. But to me, it’s wild that we’re not sharing that we’re in our first trimester in the workspace. It is when you’re the most tired, often the sickest, and pretend everything is fine.
Companies should give equal parental leave. I think that should be illegal when you have a maternity leave and a paternity leave policy that isn’t aligned. There is absolutely no way you are hiring people [equally knowing] one person might need to take 12 weeks off, and the other person will only get four weeks off. You also are setting up all those couples for a specific dynamic.
Shifting gears a little, what would you say is your pregnancy style?
I wear a lot of button-downs in general. But at this stage of pregnancy, I wear a lot of dresses, and I don’t normally ever wear dresses. I feel like a lot of pregnancy clothing is more fem for sure, which is challenging for me. But right now I’m wearing a shirt dress.
I do love high-waisted, but now I’m having a hard time because the belly is just so big. I do love to wear the belly out. It’s super fun. You walk around, and everyone notices, and it’s really a provocative thing to do. But it looks good. I’d rather have my belly out or wear something form-fitting or trying to hide it. It wasn’t long ago that we said “her condition, her state.” You wouldn’t leave your house pregnant, let alone Rihanna it.
Dame and HATCH just launched this vibrator collaboration! Anything about that?
I just think this is an innovative campaign. I remember six years ago, during one of our first Mother’s Day sales, people thought we were crazy. Just because we’re parents doesn’t mean we’re not sexual anymore. That’s how we become parents. There are so many other ways to become parents, of course.
Introducing...Dame x HATCH Welcome to the Pleasure Revolution.
By Babe | Photos by Hannah Thornhill
Hey, mamas-to-be and new mamas out there! If you think pregnancy and early motherhood are exclusively tied to hormonal mood swings and swollen ankles, think again! It’s time to level up your self-care journey with some much-deserved, full-on pampering, HATCH x Dame style!
Yes, you read that right.HATCH & Dame unite to empower pregnancy & motherhood, breaking taboos around sexuality & pleasure. Join us on this revolutionary journey.
It’s Not Just About the Babe; It’s About Mommy Pleasure!
The limited-edition collaboration is a co-branded version of Dame’s top-selling G-Spot Vibrator, the Arc. The unique device was handpicked with the help of Dame’s CEO, Alexandra Fine, who is pregnant themselves. You can read more about their pregnancy journey here.
This reimagined self-love tool dubbed the Dame x HATCH Arc, comes in co-branded packaging decorated with artwork from a complementary HATCH intimates collection. And it’s not just about the sleek design and aesthetics; the Arc is an ingenious tool designed to support expecting and new moms by offering connection with vaginal sensations during pregnancy – a vast, yet unspoken, plus for birth preparation and postpartum recovery.
Embracing Motherhood with Pleasure
“Sex and masturbation are vital parts of a woman’s holistic health, pregnant or otherwise,” says Ariane Goldman, Founder and CEO of HATCH Collective. The collaboration aims to dispel the stigma around these topics and provide a safe, exciting platform for women to continue exploring pleasure throughout motherhood.
And it doesn’t end simply with the product. This collaboration goes beyond creation, offering comprehensive, expert-driven content to educate and inspire mothers. From normalizing the dialogue around sex, pregnancy, and post-natal sexuality, to sharing the physiological and mental benefits of staying connected with pleasure, this partnership is breaking boundaries.
Join the Conversation: All Things Sex + Motherhood
Want to dive deeper into the conversation? The HATCH x Dame collab has you covered! Join a virtual event on Tuesday, June 20, at 7:30 PM ET. The session will be led by sexologist and founder of Dame, Alexandra Fine, along with panelists Lia Love Avellino, founder of Spoke, Amanda Watkins, digital creator and mom, and Rachel Wright, relationship, sex, and mental health therapist.
Get Your Hands On the Goodies!
So let us ask you this: Are you ready to redefine your motherhood journey with this groundbreaking tool? The full Dame x HATCH collection is now available for purchase exclusively online at HATCHCollection.com.
Don’t miss out on the chance to rediscover your pleasure during one of the most transformative times of your life. Remember, motherhood is not just about nurturing your babe, it’s about loving, honoring, and dare we say, celebrating your body and your sexuality. After all, being a mom doesn’t mean you stop being a woman! Embrace the pleasure revolution, and let the HATCH x Dame collaboration show you the way!
The complete Dame x HATCH collection is now available exclusively online at HATCHCollection.com.
Mamas Talk How They're Honoring Juneteenth Celebrating freedom with meaningful tributes.
By Ruthie Friedlander
As we reach the middle of June, we find ourselves standing at the threshold of an important historical milestone: Juneteenth. With each passing year, the significance of this commemoration grows, reminding us to honor the long-fought battle for freedom and the ongoing, omnipresent struggle for racial equality. In the spirit of unity and education, parents across the country work hard (and smart) to use this day to engage their families in conversations about Juneteenth and create meaningful traditions to celebrate. Here, we share how some of our favorite Babe Mamas (some former Mom Crushes!) are actively engaging with their kiddos, sharing their unique ways of honoring Juneteenth and fostering a deeper understanding of our shared history. Join our community as we explore these celebrations and discover how families embrace Juneteenth with love, knowledge, and joy.
“We will celebrate Juneteenth with joy and freedom. We will cook a meal together. I will have a conversation with them about the fact that there were slaves and that some people don’t treat everyone with kindness and equality. I will encourage them to love themselves as they are and to choose Joy daily.
I grind to protect their joy and peace. Unfortunately, with two black sons, I know one day I will have to rob them of their innocence to keep them alive. But next week at five and two, we can relish in Black joy.”
“This year I am honoring Juneteenth by being honest about what it means to be Black in America. Three years ago almost everyone was focused on Black lives and racial equity, but three years later, not much has actually changed and in many ways things have gotten worse.”
“I think it is important that we not mistake a federal holiday for meaningful racial progress. Most of my professional work is at the intersection of racism and grief, so I intend to use Juneteenth as an opportunity to pause, to reflect on where we are and where we still need to go as a nation, and celebrate the strength and resilience of Black folks. After 400 years of violence, systemic racism and white supremacy, we are still here and that in and of itself is worth celebrating.”
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“For my Caribbean American family, Juneteenth is our official kick-off to summer, and there’s no better way to celebrate than with a family reunion-style cookout. We plan to officially open our pool, invite all our extended family and close friends, and celebrate our history, heritage, and culture through fellowship, food, music, and love. We’re a Montessori family, so teaching through experience is big for us. Let’s not talk about it; let’s be about it. There’s no better way to honor our ancestors, celebrate our accomplishments, and have open conversations about the future than with a good playlist, mixed cocktails, jerk chicken, and everyone (young and old) doing the electric slide. I literally can not wait.”
Julee Wilson, Beauty Editor-at-Large at Cosmopolitan
“Juneteenth is a day of joy and rest for my family. It’s not lost on us that those two things weren’t afforded to our ancestors so it’s important that we lean into that. We’ll hang in Central Park, grab some ice cream, and then have a lovely dinner at home. Again, it’s just about being together, being ease and loving on each other.”
“We plan to teach and show our kids how important the day is by visiting our local African American history museum and celebrating the day with a family cookout. Our babies are still so young, but there’s so much we can do to let them know the importance of this day, and that’s just what we will do!”
“Juneteenth is an opportunity for us to honor our ancestors and celebrate with our community. Since moving to L.A. we hit Leimert Park for their annual Juneteenth Festival. There’s incredible food, activities for the kids, art from local artisans, and of course, the drum circle which is Sargent’s favorite part!”
Did you know men account for 50% of pregnancy challenges and miscarriages? It makes sense when you think about it, but men’s health is often overlooked in the fertility narrative.
When it comes to reproductive health, both partners play a crucial role. Investing in preconception, the time before you get pregnant is essential for both men and women. Research has shown that men significantly impact conception rates, miscarriages, and infertility cases. A man’s lifestyle and overall health can affect sperm quality, affecting pregnancy outcomes and future generations’ health.
Selecting the right prenatal supplement is essential for both partners. Here, we will outline the key factors that make a great prenatal supplement for men and provide top recommendations to boost your chances of pregnancy and ensure optimal health for you and your future family.
Declining Fertility Rates
You have been living under a rock if you haven’t heard that fertility rates and sperm health have declined, with men today having 50% less sperm than their grandfathers. Various factors contribute to this decline, with environmental and lifestyle elements being the most significant culprits. Exposure to endocrine disruptors, sedentary lifestyles, poor nutrition, obesity, smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, stress, and prolonged exposure to EMFs have all been linked to reduced sperm quality.
Sperm Regeneration – A window of opportunity:
The good news is that a man can do a lot to improve their sperm quality. One of the incredible aspects of male fertility is the natural regenerative capacity of sperm cells. The human body produces fresh sperm every 60 to 70 days, providing a significant opportunity for men to improve their sperm health through dietary modifications and nutritional interventions. This is a huge opportunity for men to step up and ensure their contribution is good!
Building Healthy Sperm
In addition to avoiding unhealthy behaviors such as smoking, drug use, and a sedentary lifestyle, ensuring adequate intake of vitamins and minerals with antioxidant properties is crucial for protecting against sperm damage before attempting to conceive. Taking therapeutic levels of specific antioxidants can help prevent further damage and neutralize existing damage. While obtaining these nutrients from whole, unprocessed foods is essential because of the additional benefits like fiber and phytonutrients; our toxin-filled environment suggests that most men would benefit from supplemental support.
Prenatal Supplements: A Game-Changer for Male Fertility
Prenatal supplements designed for men are emerging, promising to combat the decline in sperm quality. These supplements bridge nutritional gaps and provide essential nutrients for optimal sperm production and quality. By addressing nutritional deficiencies and supporting the biological processes involved in spermatogenesis, prenatal supplements offer a proactive approach to improving male fertility. Initiating the supplementation regimen at least 3-6 months before conception, during the preconception stage, is highly recommended for optimal results.
Here is what we look for in a prenatal for men:
Several key nutrients are crucial for maintaining optimal sperm health.
Antioxidants: Numerous studies have shown that nutrients like L-carnitine, vitamins C and E, zinc, and more can significantly increase the chances of a partner conceiving by over four times and result in a five times higher chance of live birth compared to men not taking antioxidants.
Coenzyme Q10 (CoQ10) supplementation has been shown to improve sperm concentration, motility, morphology, and DNA integrity. Men with lower CoQ10 levels tend to have a lower sperm count and poor motility.
B Complex Vitamins in their methylated form: Research shows that proper levels of B vitamins improve sperm count, motility, and DNA quality. However, your body needs to utilize the B vitamins properly for this to work. Approximately 40% of the population has a variation in their methylation genes, making it difficult to process the synthetic form of B vitamins, especially folic acid. This has been linked to male infertility due to its negative impacts on sperm count and quality. Obtaining B vitamins from your diet is one way to ensure you are getting the active form of these essential nutrients.
Clean ingredient sources: It’s equally important to consider what’s NOT in a prenatal as what is included. Look for a non-GMO prenatal free of synthetic fillers, artificial colors, and major allergens like gluten, dairy, soy, and nuts.
Third-Party Testing: The United States does not regulate supplements, which makes it crucial to purchase supplements that have undergone third-party testing. Third-party lab testing involves an independent organization evaluating, testing, and certifying a product’s nutritional values and contents. This process provides an unbiased verification of quality. These tests include verifying potency, checking for microbiological/bacteria contamination, and testing heavy metals.
The Best Choice:
WeNatal surpasses traditional prenatal supplements and offers a groundbreaking product intentionally formulated for both partners. With functional doses and bioavailable ingredients, WeNatal ensures optimal nutrient intake for men, supporting their reproductive health and overall well-being. The formula includes crucial fertility-supporting nutrients such as CoQ10, L-carnitine, N-acetyl cysteine (NAC), zinc, methylated B-complex vitamins, and vitamins A, C, D, E, and K. WeNatal not only supports sperm count, shape, and motility but also offers benefits beyond fertility support, including improved libido, immune system support, cardiovascular health, enhanced mood, and energy levels, and reduced oxidative stress.
Choosing the best prenatal vitamin for him is vital for enhancing fertility and ensuring optimal reproductive health. While environmental and lifestyle factors contribute to declining fertility rates, proper nutrition and supplementation can significantly improve sperm quality. WeNatal, with its well-researched formula and holistic approach, stands as an excellent choice to support men’s reproductive wellness.
To learn more about WeNatal, visit their website and explore their complete ingredient list. Additionally, you can download their Free Couples Guide to Conception to embark on a shared path toward reproductive wellness.
Ronit Menashe is co-founder and CEO of WeNatal: the first prenatal vitamin designed inclusively for men and women. Ronit co-founded WeNatal after she and her husband were exposed to the lack of male fertility options through their own pregnancy journey.
True Life: I'm a Placenta Rescuer From discard to reward.
By Ruthie Friedlander | Images courtesy of Sommer Leashore
If someone were to introduce themselves as a “placenta rescuer” at a dinner party, you might be left scratching your head. But for Sommer Leashore, this particular pursuit isn’t just a hobby but a life calling. As a Placenta Savior, her mission is to safeguard, celebrate, and ingeniously repurpose this precious postpartum discard into something useful.
There’s tons of research about the power of the placenta (which, by the way, would make a great graphic t-shirt). We dove into more of the why here. The placenta might not win any beauty contests but think of it as the ultimate prenatal VIP lounge – ensuring your babe gets the finest nutrients while promptly evicting any waste. It’s a five-star service worth holding onto.
Now, you may be wondering, what does this ‘placenta rescue’ business entail? Like, why does it need rescuing?
“It can be several things, from encapsulating your placenta to creating art,” says Sommer, who ensures the placenta is repurposed for the mother’s heath. “There are many healthy ways to use it to make the experience meaningful.”
Ok, so in case you may not know: your placenta is like a special baby-support system that forms in your womb during pregnancy. It works like a kitchen, providing food and oxygen for babe to grow.
It’s also like a waste management system, removing the baby’s waste. The placenta sticks to the side of the womb, and it’s connected to the baby by the umbilical cord.
Once you give birth, your placenta naturally detaches and leaves your body. The blood vessels connect to it and seal up while your womb shrinks down, helping you from bleeding too much.
(Isn’t the body incredible?) You might even feel the placenta slide out from between your legs.
“The placenta can take up to 30 minutes to come out,” says Sommer. “Once it’s released to me, I examine and ensure no missing pieces, discoloration, foul odors, anything like that.”
Then, based on the mother’s preferences, Sommer will turn that goodness into capsules, salves, or even art prints. The encapsulation process can involve various flavors, from bubblegum strawberry to more savory ones like carrot, to appeal to different tastes.
How did Sommer get into this line of work?
Sommer has been a doula for almost nine years. But, during COVID, hospitals wouldn’t let doulas in the room, or birthing partners or family members to help physically in the hospital room. “Placenta rescue was a way for me to still be there for people,” says Sommer.
Sommer had also experienced the benefits of placenta consumption firsthand after her most recent birth. She noticed a stark contrast in her postpartum experience compared to her previous births, where she hadn’t consumed her placenta.
She’s the first to admit that she never envisioned this career path for herself. She initially studied dance, fashion, and cosmetology. However, her journey through caring for her parents, especially her time in hospice care, led her towards this unique path that celebrates the beginning of life.
Today, even her four boys understand and appreciate her work. They’ve even corrected their teachers at school about birth-related facts that they’ve learned from their mom!
Placenta rescue is undoubtedly a unique field that may not be widely understood. However, Sommer’s journey shows us how this unusual path can provide extraordinary benefits for new mothers and represents a profound appreciation of the birthing process.
The Cost and Legalities
Depending on the specialist and location, placenta rescue services can cost between $200 to $500. Sommer’s go-to comprehensive package costs $300 and includes capsules, placenta prints, umbilical cord keepsakes, chocolates, face masks, and belly oil, among other things.
Ensuring that your placenta specialist is certified and operates with full legal compliance is essential. “You want to ensure that they are certified with OSHA and a certified placenta encapsulation specialist,” Sommer says. She emphasizes the importance of proper legal contracts and certificates to protect both parties.
But WTF do you actually get?
“Once birth happens, I come to pick up the placenta,” Sommer says. “I need to be notified by the second-hour mark of the placenta exit; otherwise, the placenta will need to be put on ice until my arrival. If the placenta has been taken to pathology, I cannot encapsulate it because of possible exposure to testing chemicals.”
Sommer explains that she’ll ask several questions about the placenta delivery and do a second examination at the hospital. “I will proceed with encapsulation if there are no abnormalities, foul odors, and discolorations. I start with a placenta art print of your color scheme, then steaming, dehydrating, capsule filling, and packaging. I offer vegan and gelatin capsule options with various colors to fit your color scheme as best as possible and form the umbilical cord keepsake. All of this is about a 3-day process from start to finish.
What if you don’t get there fast enough?
“If at any time I am made aware ahead of time that I cannot get your placenta in time — If I am testing positive for COVID or unable to leave work due to short staffing or anything that is out of my control I will either provide you with a cooler, biohazard bag, container with lid and ice for the nurses to place your placenta in and ask that you have a family member take it home and place in freezer,” she explains. “Or I will have my backup Doula set up a pickup.
She then slices the steamed placenta into thin strips and dehydrates them until completely dry. Next comes the grinding of the dehydrated placenta into a fine powder. She then fills up capsules with the powdered placenta using a capsule-filling machine or by hand. Capsules are stored properly in an airtight glass jar, away from sunlight, moisture, and heat.
To create a piece of art, the placenta is rinsed and preserved through techniques like freeze-drying or salt preservation. Non-toxic paints or natural pigments are used to add color.
Below, you can see an assortment of creations from Sommer’s full Postpartum Wellness Package to capsules and artwork.
OMG Is This a Tick Bite?! Here's what to know and what to do.
By Babe | Photo by Istock
As summer approaches, and with that chilling at barbecues, chasing fireflies at night and playing hide and seek in the yard, parents have to be vigilant about potential health risks to our babes. One such concern is tick bites, as they can transmit various diseases. Identifying a tick bite on your baby can be challenging, given their delicate skin and limited communication abilities. But we’re breaking down the signs, symptoms, and steps to take if you suspect your baby has been bitten by a tick. By familiarizing yourself with the info below, you can ensure timely intervention and protect your little one’s health.
Understanding Tick Bites
Ticks are small arachnids that feed on the blood of humans and animals. They are most commonly found in wooded areas, grasslands, and even urban parks. Tick bites can be painless, making them difficult to notice on your baby’s sensitive skin.
However, it’s essential to be aware of the potential risks associated with tick bites, including Lyme disease, Rocky Mountain spotted fever, and others.
Signs and Symptoms
Identifying a tick bite on your baby requires careful observation. Some common signs and symptoms include:
1. Redness and Swelling: Tick bites can cause local inflammation, resulting in a red and swollen area around the bite site.
2. Rash: Some tick-borne diseases, like Lyme disease, can cause a distinct rash resembling a bullseye. However, not all tick bites result in a rash.
3. Itching or Irritation: Your baby may exhibit signs of discomfort, such as scratching or rubbing the bite area.
4. Fever or Fatigue: In some cases, tick-borne illnesses can cause fever, fatigue, or flu-like symptoms. However, these symptoms may not always be present.
Steps to Take
If you suspect your baby has been bitten by a tick, follow these steps:
1. Check for Ticks: Inspect your baby’s body thoroughly, paying close attention to hidden areas like the scalp, behind the ears, armpits, and diaper area. Use a magnifying glass if necessary, as ticks can be as small as a poppy seed.
2. Remove the Tick: If you find a tick attached to your baby, use fine-tipped tweezers to grasp it as close to the skin’s surface as possible. Pull upward with a steady, gentle motion to remove the tick. Avoid squeezing or twisting the tick, as it may increase the risk of infection.
3. Cleanse the Bite Area: After tick removal, cleanse the bite site with soap and water or an antiseptic solution.
4. Monitor for Symptoms: Keep a close eye on your baby for any signs of illness, such as fever, rash, or unusual behavior. If you notice any concerning symptoms, seek medical attention promptly.
5. Save the Tick: If possible, preserve the tick in a sealed container or plastic bag. This may assist healthcare professionals in identifying the tick species and determining the appropriate course of action if your baby develops symptoms.
Tips for Avoiding Ticks
Taking measures to reduce ticks in your outdoor environment can significantly lower the risk of tick bites. Follow these recommendations:
1. Clear Vegetation: Regularly mow the lawn, remove leaf litter, and trim bushes to eliminate tick-friendly habitats around your home.
2. Create a Barrier: Install physical barriers like fences or wooden chips between recreational areas and wooded or grassy areas to prevent ticks from entering.
3. Avoid Tick Hotspots: When possible, avoid areas with high tick populations, such as tall grass, shrubs, or heavily wooded areas.
4. Use Tick-Repellent Landscaping: Consider planting tick-repellent plants such as lavender, garlic, or marigold to discourage ticks from infesting your outdoor space.
5. Perform Regular Checks: After outdoor activities, conduct thorough tick checks on your baby. Pay close attention to hidden areas such as the scalp, behind the ears, under the arms, and inside the diaper area.
Identifying a tick bite on your baby is crucial for early intervention and prevention of tick-borne illnesses. By understanding the signs and symptoms associated with tick bites, you can take action to ensure your baby’s well-being. Remember to regularly check your baby for ticks, especially after spending time in areas where ticks are prevalent. Stay in-the-know about tick-borne diseases prevalent in your region and consult with a healthcare professional if you have any concerns.
6 Things to do at Work Before You Go on Maternity Leave Get. that. review.
By Stephanie Kramer | Photo by Stocksy
Pregnancy is work, but as you build your career while you grow your family, it is more than a milestone. It is monumental. The intersection of work and pregnancy is significant and its importance is something to recognize, to normalize, and to celebrate.
With the right support–and some thoughtful planning, it can be a powerful moment to unburden your confidence, broaden your perspective, and unlock your potential for the journey to working motherhood and through it.
We spoke with Stephanie Kramer, the author of Carry Strong: An Empowered Approach to Navigating Pregnancy and Work, a beauty industry executive, and mother of two young sons to give you the insight into the 6 things you should do before you go on maternity leave to set yourself up for an empowering journey into working motherhood.
6 Things to Do at Work Before You Go on Maternity Leave
1. Ask for a review. Regardless of formal review process timing or if you have formal reviews at all at your place of work, meet with your “boss” or direct manager. Discuss how you are performing on your goals, day-to-day tasks, and as a teammate. This gives you a checkpoint not about your pregnancy, but to know where you stand at work before work will be a distant priority for a little while as you approach the end of your pregnancy, and your baby arrives. This is also a great moment to share your expectations of your manager, ask any questions, and set up expectations for what you will wrap up or what you will transition before you go on leave. Positive, clear, and collaborative communication is always essential, but this is a particularly great moment to practice it. If you’re a solo entrepreneur, review yourself—what do you need to wind-down, offboard or out-source and what are things that you can’t, but need to recognize the need for a system in the future.
2. Transition with your team. Create transition documents and meet with a month + to go, that way it’s smooth sailing for communications and less pressure on you and those you are transitioning with. What are the priorities and what are nice to have? What loops need to be closed or introduced to ensure that everyone is on the same page? Again, approaching this time with open communication and reciprocal support for this both very special and very normal moment at work is key. It’s an opportunity for everyone.
3. Check in with members of your board of directors. Your board of directors is your mentor and advocate sounding board—they often are the ones that help you through important career and personal milestones and cross-roads. Being pregnant at work and subsequently becoming a working-mom is a big one and it’s a great moment to both check in with them for support, but also to evaluate if you need to add (or subtract) someone to give you the perspective you may need right now and importantly when you return to work with a new incredible part of you. Do you have a working parent you aspire to as part of your board?
4. Do a walk-through of your work-day with baby while you’re still pregnant. Start when you wake up until you’re back at home (or if you work from home, when you switch off your “day” job). This visualization will help you to anticipate what you may need when you return, but also how you may feel. Ask the questions now to lift off some of what may be on your mind. For example, what does your commute look like now, how will that need to change? Or when you are at work where is the mother’s room/space should you want to breastfeed? Where is milk stored? Be as detailed as you can making lists as you go.
5. Assess Your Boundaries and Flexibility. Take a moment and think through what boundaries you have in place with work today. These can include when and how you respond to emails outside of work hours or can be your availability on the weekend or on vacation. They also can be how comfortable you are discussing your personal life or if you have a specific time you want to wrap up in the evening based on a personal obligation or interest. Think about what having a child will affect those boundaries that are already in place, what new ones you would like to have and how flexible you want them to be. Assessing those moments now allow you to recognize when you need to establish them further, but also how to navigate when they are crossed.
6. Take a photo of you at work. Whether that’s solo with a laptop or you in-action at your place of work, capture the memory for the baby book or to share some day with your child. Take a moment for lunch with your work BFF or team around you who are sharing in your joy (and often the majority of you day). You are navigating pregnancy and work, simultaneously, providing for your growing family now and for the future. Take a moment with pride to celebrate together.
