Bobbie and Naomi Osaka Unite to Challenge U.S. Paid Leave Policy The time is now.

By Ruthie Friedlander

Since launch, we have proudly called the amazing team over at Bobbie our friends. The mom-founded and led, mission-driven organic formula company has, from inception, been evolving the conversation around feeding across all journeys, and in their latest efforts, makes this message even larger and wider.

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Bobbie, in collaboration with Naomi Osaka, a new mother and esteemed member of the Bobbie Motherboard, is spearheading a groundbreaking initiative to address the glaring lack of paid federal leave in the United States. With an overwhelming 84% of Americans in favor of paid leave, juxtaposed against the stark reality that 73% of the population does not have access to such benefits, the urgency for transformative change is palpable. This initiative, rooted in partnership with influential nonprofit organizations such as Paid Leave for All, Chamber of Mothers, and Moms First, aims to galvanize public and political support for the enactment of paid leave in 2024, thereby aligning with the collective aspirations of American families for a more supportive and inclusive society.

In an effort to bridge the gap until comprehensive federal legislation is realized, Bobbie, alongside Osaka, launched the N.O. Support Grant. This innovative program asks applicants to share their stories of parental leave and pledges to provide 50 grants to 50 families, offering a tangible lifeline to new parents needing immediate support. Each grant, amounting to $580, mimics the proposed minimum monthly benefit under the Family and Medical Leave Act, which would provide 12 weeks of paid leave, job protection, and a foundational step towards financial stability for families nationwide if passed. This initiative not only underscores the acute need for systemic reform but also showcases the power of collective action and advocacy in catalyzing meaningful progress.

There was an overwhelming response to the Grant opportunity, which motivated over 10,000 people to tell their stories of leave in depth. Each story was unique, powerful, and had the same main thesis: American parents need help; and they need help now.

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As we delve deeper into the narratives of three women eager to share their personal journeys, we aim to amplify the voices of those directly impacted by the current inadequacies in federal leave policies. Their stories serve as a poignant testament to the resilience of families across the country and a rallying cry for the urgent implementation of paid leave for all. Through this campaign and the collaborative efforts of our partners, we are committed to ensuring that 2024 marks a pivotal year in the pursuit of equitable support for parents, championing a movement that promises a brighter, more inclusive future for all American families. The following accounts are real stories of real grant recipients, offering firsthand insight into the challenges and triumphs of navigating the complexities of parental leave in America.

Carley Sullivan

Tell Us Your Leave Story

I am a teacher in a suburb of Dallas, Texas. We are not given any paid days allocated specifically for maternity leave. We are required to use our sick days. I had accumulated enough sick days over the last three years to be out on maternity leave for seven weeks but did not want to use them all in case my son was sick at any point in the year; a family emergency occurred, etc. I returned to work after being home with him for six weeks.

I did not feel ready to go back to work. I was still experiencing bleeding and was continuing to recover physically after my delivery. I also did not feel like that amount of time was sufficient to bond with my son and develop the routines necessary for him to be on a consistent schedule.

One of the biggest challenges I faced when returning to work was maintaining my milk supply to continue breastfeeding my little boy. Prior to returning to school, I was pumping three to four ounces per pumping session. Once I went back to work, my supply began to decrease to the point that I was only pumping one to two ounces. A teacher’s daily schedule is incredibly demanding and does not allow a new mother to pump every two to three hours as is necessary to maintain a sufficient supply. Because of this, I discontinued breastfeeding when my son was three months old.

What can $580 do for your family this month?

$580 would benefit my family greatly this month. We receive hospital bills frequently since the birth of our son, and these additional expenses have created a struggle financially. In addition, since I stopped breastfeeding we are spending a significant portion of our monthly budget to purchase formula. This $580 would truly be a blessing to us!

Batouly Camara

Tell Us Your Leave Story

Thank you for the opportunity to share my story! I played college basketball at UCONN, which is how I saw the ad. I am currently a second-year PhD student at UMass Amherst. I left under the impression that I had received paid leave, but I did not. I have not received any financial income since the semester ended in the Spring of 2023. I was under the impression that I would receive paid leave as a research assistant, as well as a grad student. I attend the University of Massachusetts, Amherst, but I live in Connecticut. I used to drive four hours to school three days a week because I love school and I deeply love my education. I am studying sports management with a focus on sports development for girls in West Africa. I have a nonprofit called Women and Kids Impairment, where we provide education, infrastructure, and support to young girls and GYNs in West Africa and New York City. I started this back in college and am now in school so we can open up the first girls’ boarding school, where we already have the land and a few financial commitments. That said, as I mentioned, I was under the impression that I would receive paid leave, and I did not; I’m so thankful that I gave birth to a baby girl in the first week of November, and I’m not returning to school until September 2024. This is almost over a year, and it’s been really tough to handle. I think this could be super beneficial for me and my family.

What can $580 do for your family this month?

This will first allow me to pay my phone bill and also allow us to get some diapers. It’s been amazing how a lot of people gave gifts, but [my daughter is] quickly growing [out of what we were given]. This would also help with little things as I also take care of my mom and younger sister. It would allow me to get more groceries for the month, which is always very helpful. I do not receive any government support, so this will be extremely beneficial.

Amy Loehrs

Tell Us Your Leave Story

My son came a month early, so I was still not ready financially. We are both servers in restaurants, so there’s no way to work from home or anything like that. I have to show up and hustle to make money. My water broke at work! While my job was great at accommodating and supporting me through my whole journey, there was no paid leave. Well wishes don’t pay my rent, unfortunately. I stayed home to care for my son for almost my whole 12 weeks of leave but returned when I ran out of my savings. I only work half of what I used to (by choice), so it’s even harder now. In addition to the struggle of not being with him all the time, breastfeeding is hard to do while away, and our supplemental formula is expensive and often sold out.  If I had paid federal leave, I would have been able to be more present at home and worry solely about taking care of my baby.

What can $580 do for your family this month?

This money could restock our formula supply and help us begin to pay our hospital bills.

Tiana Adams

Tiana Adams
Photo courtesy of Tiana Adams

Tell us Your Leave Story

I am recently pregnant with twins after a three-year journey with IVF due to infertility from diagnosed endometriosis. Earlier this year, I had to have my tubes removed due to an infection that was left untreated by a prior doctor. This was my third round of IVF; the first resulted in a chemical pregnancy, and now I have finally been blessed with these miracles. I am currently employed full-time for a nonprofit organization in the education field, and as mentioned, there is no maternity leave. None of the policies even reference the word maternity in them at all. So when I take leave, I will have to use FMLA, and it will be unpaid.

What can $580 do for your family this month?

$580 would help pay for the many bills I have accumulated out of pocket because many IVF charges or meds are not covered by insurance. I also have been saving more to prepare for the weeks I will go unpaid at the end of the year. There is also a chance due to my age, I am told to be on bed rest with multiple pregnancies, and my job is not remote; I am required to be onsite, and therefore I may have to take leave sooner. $580 would be a blessing to my family as we are growing. Thank you.Visit  parentspushharder.com to learn more and sign the petition.

4 Essential Blood Tests All Mamas Should Ask For What's up, doc?

By Ruthie Friedlander

Navigating the labyrinth of prenatal care can be daunting, especially when it comes to understanding the myriad of blood tests and their implications for both mama and baby. The complexity of managing and interpreting tests like hemoglobin, hematocrit, and ferritin for expectant mothers adds another challenge. Each test serves a critical function: hemoglobin measures the part of the blood that transports oxygen, hematocrit assesses blood volume, and ferritin gauges stored iron levels, essential for preventing iron deficiency anemia. Amidst these vital evaluations, pregnant women are often left pondering which tests are necessary, when they should be taken, and how to interpret their results. This confusion is compounded by the fact that iron needs surge by 1.5 times during pregnancy, making the stakes even higher. As such, ensuring optimal health during pregnancy involves frequent consultations with healthcare providers and a proactive approach to understanding and managing one’s blood health—a vital yet intricate part of prenatal care.

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To help clarify this complex area, we sat down with Stephanie Middleberg, a registered dietitian and author with extensive experience in maternal nutrition. Drawing from her decade-long practice guiding expectant mothers, Stephanie emphasized the importance of tailored nutritional strategies that align with the necessary blood tests during pregnancy. Her holistic approach focuses on the tests and how diet can optimize maternal health and fetal development. Through her forthcoming book, “The Big Book of Pregnancy Nutrition,” Stephanie aims to empower women with knowledge and practical advice on navigating prenatal nutrition, highlighting the synergy between what you eat and the outcomes of these critical blood tests.

TEST: Iron: Ferritin, hematocrit, hemoglobin

Hemoglobin is a crucial component of the blood that transports oxygen from the lungs to various tissues throughout the body, while ferritin indicates stored iron levels. Low iron levels can lead to conditions such as iron deficiency and iron deficiency anemia, which occurs when there are not enough healthy red blood cells to carry adequate oxygen to the body’s tissues. During pregnancy, a woman’s iron needs increase by 1.5 times, and approximately 40% of pregnant women worldwide experience iron deficiency, particularly in the third trimester. Obstetricians typically screen for iron deficiency during the first prenatal labs and possibly midway through the pregnancy. However, if symptoms like weakness, an inability to maintain body warmth, shortness of breath, paleness, or a rapid heartbeat occur at any point, it’s crucial to consult a doctor to check iron levels. Iron deficiency anemia is associated with serious complications such as low birth weight and delayed neurocognitive development in newborns. To prevent this, taking an iron supplement and consuming a diet rich in absorbable iron is advisable. The most effective forms of iron during pregnancy come from animal proteins, known as heme iron, which include red meat, poultry, fish, liver, and other organ meats. Although plant-based forms of iron, or non-heme iron, such as cooked spinach, kale, beans, lentils, tofu, and pumpkin seeds, are less efficiently absorbed, they are still important dietary sources of iron.

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TEST: B12

Vitamin B12 deficiency is a common issue during pregnancy, particularly affecting women who follow a vegan or vegetarian diet, those who have used birth control for extended periods, individuals who frequently use antacids due to gastrointestinal issues like heartburn, and those diagnosed with celiac disease. Research indicates that 38% of all pregnant women are deficient in vitamin B12 at the time of delivery, with the rate rising to 62% among vegetarian pregnant women. This deficiency is concerning as low levels of vitamin B12 have been linked to several adverse pregnancy outcomes, including preterm birth, early miscarriage, preeclampsia, neural tube defects, and small size for gestational age.

Fortunately, B12 deficiency is relatively easy to prevent and address. Healthcare providers typically recommend taking a B12 supplement and incorporating B12-rich foods into one’s diet. Effective dietary sources of vitamin B12 include red meat, poultry, organ meats, salmon, sardines, shellfish, and full-fat dairy products such as Greek yogurt, cottage cheese, and hard cheeses. By ensuring adequate intake of vitamin B12, pregnant women can significantly mitigate the risks associated with its deficiency.

TEST: Hemoglobin AIC

The Hemoglobin A1C test provides valuable insights into your blood sugar levels over the past three months, offering a broader perspective than the instantaneous snapshot of fasting blood glucose tests. Despite the significance of blood sugar management, the majority of pregnant women are not tested for gestational diabetes until weeks 24-28 of their pregnancy. Given the potential complications associated with high blood sugar levels, it’s worth considering early testing. An A1C level of 5.7 or higher is indicative of prediabetes, and research strongly suggests that such levels at the onset of pregnancy can be predictive of gestational diabetes. If your levels are elevated early on, there’s no need for undue concern. Instead, this early discovery provides a crucial opportunity to take proactive steps towards managing your blood sugar right from the start of your pregnancy, helping to ensure your health and that of your baby.

TEST: Vitamin D

Vitamin D deficiency is a common concern and the risk increases during pregnancy. While most prenatal vitamins include Vitamin D, they often do not contain sufficient amounts to elevate levels to a normal range, generally considered at least thirty nanograms per milliliter. However, reaching this baseline may not be enough for optimal health; a more desirable target is around forty nanograms per milliliter. Depending on your lab results and the contents of your prenatal vitamin, you might need to supplement with additional Vitamin D, potentially ranging from 2,000 IU to 5,000 IU daily. It is important to monitor your levels closely because it is possible to have too much Vitamin D. Consulting with your healthcare provider and conducting follow-up tests will ensure your levels stay within a healthy range. Since Vitamin D is difficult to obtain in adequate amounts from food alone, supplementation is often necessary. Additionally, Vitamin D is fat-soluble, meaning it’s best absorbed when taken with food. Aim for at least 30 minutes of sun exposure daily to naturally boost your Vitamin D levels.

Debunking Myths Around Tongue Ties Lessons from Dr. Fatina Shtivelman.

By Ruthie Friedlander | Photo by @magdawosinskastudio

In the field of pediatric dentistry, a significant number of myths and misconceptions about tongue ties persist, affecting the understanding and decisions of parents and caregivers. Dr. Fatina Shtivelman, a board-certified pediatric dentist with extensive experience and a personal connection to the subject, offers insights into these common fallacies. Here, Dr. Shtivelman debunks the widespread myths surrounding tongue ties, utilizing her comprehensive knowledge and expertise. It explores the critical importance of accurate diagnosis and timely treatment of tongue ties, emphasizing their role in successful breastfeeding, speech development, and overall orofacial health.

Dishing out this gem of information, the mission is to arm parents with the superpowers of knowledge, enabling them to leap to informed decisions in a single bound and to champion the cause of early intervention and robust support for the little ones grappling with tongue ties.

What are some of the most common misconceptions or myths surrounding tongue ties in your practice?

As a board-certified pediatric dentist, the education I received in school and residency about lip and tongue ties was all of five minutes from one lecture. I initially became passionate about learning and helping mothers struggling with breastfeeding because of my experience. My son Julian was born with a lip and tongue tie. I was having a hard time emotionally and physically trying to feed him. I was determined to breastfeed him because of what I felt would benefit him. Julian was born with a significant anterior tongue tie with limited tongue movement. He latched at the hospital, and the lactation consultant explained that I needed to continue working on it at home. Once I came home, I was still very uncomfortable with bleeding nipples and a baby who was constantly crying. It was extremely draining on me. Nursing him would take over an hour each time. I said to myself, “This cannot be normal.”  I spoke with friends and worked with a second lactation consultant.  She recommended a nipple shield which helped to reduce my pain, but feeding time still took forever, and I was still experiencing discomfort. I knew I had to seek more help because I couldn’t continue doing this daily. 

I didn’t understand the difference between a shallow and deep latch at that time.  The importance of lip and tongue mobility helps many things, including the ability to latch easier, milk expression, painless and efficient nursing, decreased stress for mom, and decreased frustration for the baby.  When I decided to have the lip and tongue tie procedure done, it was like night to day.  Many of my questions were answered, and my insecurities went away as we were both thriving and much improved.  The third lactation consultant we worked with, Andrea Syms-Brown, helped us immensely. 

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The biggest misconception is that “the baby will grow out of it.” This is counterintuitive since proper lip and tongue movement is important for nursing, feeding, speech, and orofacial development.  With the proper consultation, education, and early diagnosis, the answers to many of these issues can be solved, and many new mothers will have an easier time. Many times, even though a baby can nurse, lip and tongue movement restrictions can interfere with feeding. Babies become agitated quickly because they cannot use their tongue to lift and swallow.  If the tongue does not go into the proper position during feeding, they are more likely to develop jaw and airway issues, including snoring and grinding. Speech-related issues may occur, too, if the tongue is restricted from being in the correct position causing improper articulation, lisps, or speech delays. Knowing what I know now, I believe all babies should be evaluated for lip/tongue ties to allow proper development and be able to thrive during these years of life.

How does a tongue tie affect breastfeeding, and what are some misunderstandings parents may have about this issue?

A tongue tie affects breastfeeding because the tongue has restricted movement. This restricted movement does not allow the baby to latch properly. A shallow latch is more painful for the mother and leads to an inefficient milk transfer. As a woman, I have a very high physical pain tolerance, but this was something I never experienced. Between the bleeding nipples and my son “gumming” because of his frustration, it hurt so much that I felt like I was seeing stars.  As a mother, you want to do what’s best for the baby, so you close your eyes, take deep breaths and keep going. 

Many people think the tongue tie will go away. Dr. Baxter, who has written a book and course on tongue ties, said it best:” A restricted tongue is like trying to run with your feet tied together.”How can you be fast, efficient, and keep up with someone when your feet are tied together? You can’t!! 

There’s often debate about whether tongue ties require treatment. Could you clarify when intervention is necessary and when it might be optional?

There is a lot of debate about this topic, but I have seen firsthand the benefits of early diagnosis, education and making the necessary referral to address the issue.  If a baby is born with webbed fingers, the doctor immediately makes a referral because you can see it, and an evaluation is performed to fix the issue. Since lip and tongue ties are in the mouth and are not always as obvious initially, the intervention tends to happen only when an issue arises.  If there is difficulty breastfeeding due to latch issues, speech concerns, difficulty brushing, or tooth decay, a consultation is necessary to review the options and tongue and lip release done to alleviate these problems. Function is the key, and if the restrictions do not allow proper function, a release is recommended. If there are no significant functional issues, the baby can latch, is gaining weight, the mom is not experiencing discomfort, and the function is normal, I often monitor and reevaluate if needed.

Some people believe that tongue ties only affect infants and breastfeeding. Could you discuss other potential impacts of untreated tongue ties across different age groups?

Mothers also seek us out when starting their babies on solids. With little ones, picky eating, gagging, and a preference for only softer foods are the main reasons mothers bring their children in for a consultation. Tongue/lip restrictions also do not allow for proper oral-facial development and strengthening of the oral muscles, which is needed for speech and language development.

Toddlers and young children come in mostly because of speech delays and articulation concerns. As I mentioned earlier, Julian had a significant tongue tie, and his first lip/tongue procedure significantly helped with his nursing. However, he also had speech delay and articulation concerns, and the fluidity of his speech was an issue. This led to a lot of behavioral issues since people couldn’t understand what he was saying. If people can’t understand a child, many times, a child will start hitting, biting, or pushing to communicate and meet their needs. This is extremely concerning as a parent, and I now understand how important it is for a child to communicate and allow them to continue to flourish and grow.

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Speech difficulties can affect school-aged children and teenagers socially and academically. Many children are perceived as quiet or sometimes more withdrawn, creating self-esteem issues due to their lack of ability to communicate effectively. 

Are there any alternative treatments or therapies you commonly recommend or encounter for tongue ties, and what misconceptions might surround these alternatives?

Absolutely!! I think it’s important to note that a team approach is the best approach!! Creating a team with lactation consultants and speech therapists is best. Working with a lactation consultant will help to develop the proper latch after the release to minimize the discomfort for the mother and make breastfeeding a rewarding experience. Working with feeding and speech therapists is also key for proper follow-up care for feeding, speech, and language development. Having a myofunctional therapist on your team can be beneficial as well.  They help ensure the correct stretches and exercises are being done to improve muscle function and coordination of oral muscles while also minimizing scar tissue that can occur. Craniosacral therapists can perform massages to help to alleviate tension in the baby. When the nervous system is relaxed, you can perform tasks more naturally and easily.

HELP! My Baby Called the Nanny “Mama” Before Me Am I terrible mama?

By Lauren Tetenbaum

Welcome to Babe’s newest advice column, featuring guidance from perinatal mental health and relationship expert Lauren Tetenbaum (AKA The CounseLaur). The information herein does not and is not intended to constitute mental health, medical, or legal advice. Please contact your healthcare provider if you have specific needs, the Maternal Mental Health Hotline for on-demand support, or 911 for emergency assistance. Want to submit a question? Email editorial@hatchcollection.com.

Q: My baby called our nanny “Mama” before me. Am I a terrible parent?

A: First, let me remind you that a mom who worries about whether she is a terrible parent is definitely not one. The fact that you are concerned about connecting with your baby reflects that you care and that you want to do everything you can to meet their needs.

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Second, “Mama” is a common word for little ones learning to talk. “Babbling is the earliest stage of language development and typically consists of consonant sounds that are easiest to produce, like m, d, or b,” explains Cassie Zises, MS, CCC-SLP, TSLLD, speech pathologist and co-founder of Look Who’s Talking, which offers multiple speech-language and sensory enrichment classes throughout the New York area. “Babies use reduplicated babble where they repeat those early consonants and syllables – think mamama – before using true words.” And they probably aren’t associating the word with any person quite yet. Cassie confirms: “Often a baby will say mama or baba, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they identify or use these as words or names. Rather, they’re practicing sounds they can make.”

Finally, it’s understandable – in fact, enlightening – that it still may feel crappy. You and your baby are constantly having new experiences, and it’s tough when things don’t go as you may have expected! Check in with yourself about why guilt or worry is popping up for you. Are you feeling like you don’t spend enough time with your baby? Would it be helpful to strategize with your caregivers about things like not taking the baby to a class or on the swing set until after you do it with them for the first time? Is there something deeper going on, like postpartum anxiety or pressure to be a perfect parent? You are not alone, and it’s okay to want reassurance and an opportunity to express your feelings safely. Reach out for the support you deserve.

Lauren A. Tetenbaum, LMSW, JD, PMH-C is a writer and social worker specializing in women’s mental health. She is also Mommy to Luke (2016) and Eva (2018). Through her counseling practice, Lauren provides therapy in NY & CT, facilitates groups and workshops to empower postpartum and other women in corporate settings, and contributes to media on topics like maternal mental health, gender equity, and working parenthood. A former lawyer and a forever women’s rights advocate, Lauren feels privileged to counsel women through life transitions when they most need and deserve support.

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FP Movement x HATCH Unveil Second Collection New capsule alert!

By Ruthie Friedlander

Gather ’round, for we have news that will make even your most stubborn pregnancy cravings seem mundane. Imagine a world where your burgeoning belly and those curves don’t mean a trade-off between style and comfort. Dream no more, for the sartorial stork has delivered once again with the second FP Movement x HATCH Collection!

You. Are. Welcome.

Pregnant woman wearing FP Movement X HATCH- Hot Shot Onesie

This isn’t just any collection. It’s a fusion of FP Movement’s trend-setting activewear with HATCH’s chic, motherhood-embracing maternity wear, designed not only for those precious nine months but beyond. Yes, you heard right. Thirteen styles of pure, unadulterated, pregnancy-friendly fabulousness have landed, ready to cater to every whim of your active (or not-so-active; we don’t judge) lifestyle.

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Ariane Goldman, our visionary behind HATCH and Babe, has joined forces with the Free People team and waved their fashion wands for the second time, bringing forth a capsule collection that might just have you wishing for a longer pregnancy.

Pregnant Woman with dog wearing FP Movement X HATCH- Righteous Runsie

“This launch was designed to support moms however they move, whether that’s a full-blown workout, mat day, or rest day. Because when you’re pregnant, everything changes, and it’s more important than ever to find ways to feel good in our bodies,” Ariane says. From yoga mats to brunch dates, they’ve got you covered with leggings that embrace, sports bras that support, and sweatshirts that hug every inch of your mom-to-be glow.

The prices? As gentle on your wallet as the collection is on your skin, ranging from $40 to $128. Launching this week, this lineup is a spring/summer tease, with whispers of a fall encore to keep us on our toes.

But what really sets this collaboration apart, besides the obviously Instagram-worthy outfits, is its heart. Both FP Movement and HATCH are not just about dressing you up; they’re about lifting you up. With HATCH’s commitment to supporting moms through more than just clothing—think classes, events, and a community that cheers on every milestone—and FP Movement’s dedication to empowering women in every stage of their life, this collaboration is less of a transaction and more of a hug; a “we’ve got you” to every mother and mother-to-be.

So, whether stretching for two or just lounging with your bump in full view, know this collection was crafted with love, movement, and maternity magic. Get ready to embrace your journey with style because the FP Movement x HATCH Collection Two is not just a wardrobe update; it’s a celebration of motherhood, movement, and the amazing transformation your body is going through.

Now, who’s ready to shop?

Tabeeze Tube-eeze Patches: Revolutionizing Baby Clothing Access Access made simple.

By Ruthie Friedlander

In the world of parenting, there are few things as daunting as navigating the needs of a medically complex baby. For parents of little warriors who require special access for lines and ports, or who spend their earliest days in the NICU, finding clothing that meets their needs without compromising on style can feel like an impossible task. That’s where Tabeeze steps in, offering a revolutionary solution that’s as practical as it is adorable.

Tabeeze adaptive clothes are designed with every baby in mind, especially those who require access for g-tubes, j-tubes, PICC lines, and ports. The necessity for such clothing arises from the challenges parents face in finding affordable options that not only accommodate medical equipment but also reflect their baby’s personality with various colors and patterns. Traditional specialty clothing for medically complex babies often comes with a hefty price tag, limited options, and can lack aesthetic appeal. Many parents resort to makeshift solutions, like cutting holes in their baby’s clothing, which can be unsightly, impractical, and uncomfortable for the baby.

Enter Tube-eeze Patches, the game-changing innovation from Tabeeze. These patches offer customizable access to any item in your baby’s wardrobe, eliminating the need for costly specialty clothing. Whether you need access to the back of a shirt or the leg of pants, Tube-eeze patches provide a versatile, affordable, and stylish solution. Priced at just $3 for a single patch, $12 for a four-pack, or $20 for an eight-pack, Tube-eeze patches are practical and budget-friendly. A

vailable online at Tabeeze’s website, these patches offer convenience and accessibility for parents seeking clothing solutions for their medically complex babies. But it’s not just about convenience; it’s about making life easier for moms and dads with so much on their plates. With Tube-eeze patches, dressing your little one becomes a stress-free experience, allowing you to focus on what truly matters – caring for your precious bundle of joy.

Don’t just take our word for it; hear from moms like Jessie D., Kyla N., and Brittany H., who have experienced the difference Tube-eeze patches make in their lives. With testimonials praising the patches’ versatility, affordability, and convenience, it’s clear that Tabeeze is not just a clothing brand; it’s a lifeline for families navigating the complexities of caring for a medically fragile baby. So, join us in celebrating every little miracle with Tabeeze – where practicality meets style, and every baby’s unique needs are met with love and care.

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“I love that the patches are customizable and can be placed in various locations on clothing. Tube feeding definitely isn’t a one size fits all journey, and giving parents flexibility to provide the access that works best for them is so important.” – Jessie D.

“These patches are wonderful! Our daughter has a gtube feeding tube and we’ve always had a hard time finding affordable adaptive clothing for her. She is currently only in size 3-6m and spits up often so we go through a lot of clothes pretty fast! These patches are so convenient and easy to use! They have a variety of colors which makes it so fun. The best part is you can add them to any of your favorite outfits to make them adaptive!” – Kyla N.


“Recently I had a chance to sample a few items from Tabeeze clothing brand. Being a mom of a baby with not only oxygen but a g tube, choosing clothing items that not only are cute but also convenient when changing is hard to find. Tabeeze clothes is the answer. Their clothing is soft, easy to work with when feeding with g tube, and also provides a solution to not having to have big holes in babies clothing to accommodate the g tube.” – Brittany H.

What is Matrescence? From our friends at Seed Mother.

By Seed Mother | Photo by @_mariatoscano

Seed Mother is an evidence-based maternal education program focused on matrescence, created by Julia Sarewitz and Victoria Trinko. Developed and researched at Columbia University, Seed Mother’s program harnesses the power of education, ritual, and community to empower mothers in the transition to motherhood. With immersive live virtual workshops and personalized 1:1 coaching, Seed Mother offers expert-led guidance and essential support to mothers through every stage of their journey – from pre-conception to pregnancy and postpartum to early parenthood (including via surrogacy or adoption).

Welcome to the world of matrescence – It’s like puberty, but with more diaper changes and fewer questionable fashion choices (well, at least when you’re rocking your Hatch Crop Jeans). 

If this concept is new to you, you’re not alone. Coined by anthropologist Dana Raphael in the ’70s (who also gave us the term “doula”), matrescence is a crucial concept often left out of mainstream motherhood discussions—until now.

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We are Victoria Trinko and Julia Sarewitz, matrescence educators and co-founders of Seed Mother. We are here to unpack everything for you.

So, what exactly is matrescence?

What do puberty, pregnancy, and postpartum have in common? More than meets the eye.

We all know adolescence as that whirlwind transition from childhood to adulthood. But what about the transition from womanhood to motherhood? That’s where matrescence comes in. It’s a similar journey, complete with bodily changes, hormonal roller coasters, identity shifts, and new relationship dynamics—just like adolescence. Still, this time, you’re also responsible for raising a tiny human.

While pregnancy and childbirth typically get the spotlight, there is a process to becoming a mother, and it often gets overlooked. Mothers find themselves navigating its confusing maze of emotions and personal changes solo, with little acknowledgment or support for the profound impact it has on their identity, relationships, and well-being.

Thankfully, in 2015, Dr. Aurélie Athan, a reproductive psychologist at Columbia University (who, lucky for us, also happens to be our mentor), picked up where Raphael left off, expanding matrescence to include a “developmental passage where a woman transitions through pre-conception, pregnancy, and birth, surrogacy, or adoption to the postnatal period and beyond” — because becoming a mother isn’t a one-time event; it’s a lifelong process, inclusive of all paths to motherhood.

Another important aspect Dr. Athan brought to light is that this process isn’t just about the biological changes. Matrescence is a holistic transformation that touches every aspect of our lives.

Remember adolescence? We tend to focus on the physical aspects of puberty —the first period, the zits, the sudden hair growth. Similarly, we often fixate on the physical aspects of pregnancy and postpartum—the baby bump, the “mommy” brain, losing your glorious pregnancy mermaid hair. But the lens of matrescence reminds us that becoming a mother is more than skin-deep; it’s a profound psychological, social, ecological, and spiritual journey.

Why does this matter?

Matrescence matters because navigating the challenges of motherhood—amidst societal expectations and cultural norms—can be overwhelming. Matrescence broadens our perspective and frees us to think more flexibly about what new motherhood “should” look or feel like. Matrescence helps us find our way through the multifaceted changes and complex emotions of new motherhood and understand that the stress and anxiety we may feel are entirely normal parts of the journey. 

Matrescence is not a moment but a movement that propels us toward a more empowered and compassionate approach to modern motherhood. The maternal health crisis underscores the critical need for holistic, mother-centered models of care. Unlike conventional programs that prioritize the child’s needs, Seed Mother’s approach centers on the mother’s inner world, valuing and validating her unique, lived experiences of motherhood.

Through our evidence-based maternal education program, we empower expecting and new mothers— through surrogacy, adoption, or childbirth—on their journey to motherhood. With a blend of education, ritual, and community, we offer psychoeducational workshops and personalized coaching grounded in matrescence. Our mission is simple yet profound: every mother deserves to be seen, heard, and supported. Seed Mother’s group classes and private sessions equip mothers with the knowledge, tools, and social support needed to navigate the challenges of new motherhood with confidence and resilience.

While we meticulously prepare for childbirth and the care of our newborns, so many mothers today neglect to prepare or care for their postpartum selves – we ignore our desires and our fundamental need for holistic support through this process of becoming

Sacrificing yourself for the needs of others, especially during the early stages of motherhood, comes at a cost. It leaves us feeling depleted, distressed, and disconnected from ourselves and others. Prioritizing your needs alongside those of your child might seem contrary to the story of selflessness we’ve been conditioned to embrace, and, indeed, it is. It’s time to start a new narrative that centers on the mother – one that tells us, “You matter, too.” Understanding our individual matrescence journey enables us to soften societal and self-imposed standards, tune into our inner voice and values, and cultivate self-compassion for the new person emerging through this process. And ironically, this is what can energize, empower, and enable us to better fulfill our roles as nurturers, partners, siblings, and friends. 

So let us embrace our matrescence as an act of radical and essential maternal care  — and a reminder that motherhood is a journey, not just a destination. And remember, you don’t have to travel this path alone. Seed Mother is here to guide you every step of the way.


Head to Seed Mother, and enter HATCH15 at checkout to get 15% off your first group workshop or 1:1 coaching session. And for more on matrescence, follow us on Instagram @seedmother.

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Empowering Mothers and Daughters in the Digital Age Unveiling Strategies from 'Over the Influence

By Ruthie Friedlander

Introducing “Over the Influence” – a compelling manifesto by communication professor and CNN Opinion contributor Kara Alaimo. This essential book serves as a rallying cry for women, urging them to acknowledge and resist how social media is weaponized against them while harnessing its potential to empower. Alaimo delves into the pervasive impact of social media on women and girls, illuminating its effects on relationships, parenting, and overall well-being. From the manipulation of online content to the prevalence of fake news targeting women’s vulnerabilities, “Over the Influence” confronts the harsh realities of navigating the digital landscape. Yet, amidst these challenges, Alaimo offers invaluable insights and practical advice on navigating social media’s complexities. She provides strategies for empowering daughters, leveraging dating apps, advancing careers, and safeguarding against online threats like sextortionists, catfishers, and trolls. Moreover, the book calls upon women to challenge sexism and misogyny online, reject misinformation, and utilize their platforms to uplift themselves and others. With a blend of astute analysis and actionable guidance, “Over the Influence” empowers women to reclaim control of their digital narratives and foster a more inclusive and empowering online environment.

Here, we speak with the author.

“In ‘Over the Influence,’ you discuss the dual nature of social media as both empowering and exploitative for women. How can mothers navigate this landscape to foster empowerment and resilience in their daughters?”

In the first chapter of my book, “Girl Meets Instagram,” I tell the story of a woman who says she got her eating disorder on Instagram as a teenager. It’s clear that social networks can feed our daughters very toxic, potentially even deadly, content. But, at the same time, social apps can be places where kids get involved in important causes or develop interests that launch their careers. So I think it’s unfortunately on us as parents to help our daughters get their social media use right.

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I think it’s critical for us to remind our daughters that a lot of the content they see on social networks is heavily filtered and doesn’t represent most people’s actual bodies or lives. As I write in my book, the so-called Instagram body can usually only be achieved through surgery. It’s also essential to talk about why we shouldn’t judge anyone for their appearances.

To help kids use social media as a tool for empowerment, I suggest sitting down with them and searching for and viewing content about their hobbies and interests – whether it’s an extracurricular activity they’re involved in or an issue like climate change that they care about. Watch it together and encourage your kids to follow the accounts that produce this kind of content. What’s even better is that when kids consume, follow or search for particular topics, that sends a signal to social networks’ algorithms, which are programmed to then serve them more similar content in the future.

Considering the pervasive influence of social media on young minds, what strategies do you recommend for parents to help manage their children’s engagement with these platforms?

In addition to helping kids find valuable communities and content and process the posts they see in healthy ways, it’s important to balance their screen time with offline activities. A lot of parents have strict rules for their kids’ in-person gatherings with friends because they worry about their safety. But if your kid is instead home scrolling on TikTok or Instagram, they could end up having experiences that are even more dangerous. Getting kids involved in healthy extracurricular activities will naturally reduce the amount of time they have to spend on social media.

I also recommend setting the rules for using social media together with your children. For example, they might use their phones after they finish their homework and you might all agree to put them away at the dinner table. But, as I say in my book, exceptions will probably be called for – like if they need to do online research for an assignment or if you’re waiting for news on how a sick family member is doing. Your kids will probably have some smart, reasonable ideas for how to strike the right balance. And, of course, I offer more very specific tips in my book.

Your book offers advice on protecting oneself from online dangers like trolls. Could you share some insights on how parents can educate and safeguard their children from these threats?

First, we have to talk to our kids about why they should never sext: They could actually be prosecuted for producing child pornography (of themselves). But we also have to educate them about sextortionists. These are people who will try convince them to share a racy image (often by forming some kind of emotional relationship with them online) and then once they have the picture the person will threaten to make it public unless your kid sends them money or more explicit content – or both. This is another reason they should never produce or share intimate images. 

Of course, a lot of kids comply with requests for these kinds of images not because they really want to share them but because they’re hungry for attention or romantic relationships and, as adolescents, they’re especially insecure. It was heartbreaking to hear one woman who I interviewed for my book tell me that she wished she’d known as a teenager that she could have just told guys who asked her for sexts to get lost. So we need to teach our kids to say no anytime something makes them uncomfortable.    

We also need to teach our kids not to engage with trolls. When people post hateful content it can be tempting for us to fire back, but that only boosts the engagement of the post, which is a signal to social networks’ algorithms that people want to see more of it. It’s better to report posts that violate a social network’s community standards directly to the platform and then do one of the most devastating things possible to the abuser: Simply ignore them. In my book, I also talk about how we can rally around people who are targeted by trolls by posting positive things about them.

You advocate for demanding more from lawmakers and tech companies to protect users, particularly women and girls. What changes would you like to see implemented, and how can parents and caregivers lend their voices to this cause?

It’s essential for Congress to pass the SHIELD Act, which would make it a crime for people to share intimate images of a person without their consent. As I write in my book, when nude images of a woman or girl circulate online, it can be life-destroying. It puts her at greater risk of depression, suicide and sexual assault and makes it harder for her to get jobs or to date.

I’d also like to see tech companies indicate when photos or images have been manipulated. That would serve as a powerful reminder to our kids that the images they’re seeing online so often aren’t real – and therefore aren’t what they should be measuring themselves against.

One way we can advocate for these things is, of course, by using our social platforms to call on lawmakers and tech companies to make these needed changes. One of the big messages of my book is that if we all radically changed who we follow and what we share online and focus on issues that matter to us rather than the latest memes, we could make both social networks and the offline world a far healthier, happier, safer place for ourselves and our children.

You can purchase “Over the Influence” today at penguinrandomhouse.com.

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A Practical Guide to Hormone-Informed Skincare Wisdom from the founder of Eli Health

By Marina Pavlovic Rivas

When I first founded Eli I was looking for a way to have the necessary data about my own body to manage my health. What I didn’t expect was how starting a hormonal health company would be like discovering a hidden map, revealing the intricate connections between our health and daily lives. What started as a personal quest evolved into a shared mission as I met scores of women with unanswered questions about their hormonal health. The stories were endless, but what tied them together was the understanding that hormones affect every area of our lives. 

In the four years since I have deepened my appreciation for the delicate dance of hormones and their far-reaching effects. This knowledge has reshaped my daily routines. I now emphasize choices that nurture my hormonal health – a vital component of lifelong well-being. For someone who has grappled with eczema since childhood, a mindful skincare routine is essential. Mine is now additionally enriched with insights from hormonal health.

The Skin-Hormone Connection

The skin is the body’s largest endocrine organ. This means that it produces hormones, including small amounts of cortisol, and during perimenopause, it takes over estradiol production from the ovaries. All this to say: the skin needs to be protected diligently. 

Related: Pregnancy-Safe Sunscreen

Feedback Loop Between Skincare and Hormones

In the dynamic feedback loop between our skin and hormones, what we apply topically can affect our hormonal balance, and our hormones, in turn, profoundly influence our skin’s health. Key hormones like progesterone and cortisol, which regulate sebum production, can lead to variations in skin oiliness during different phases of your cycle or under stress. Recognizing this interplay is essential for safeguarding our skin and supporting our hormonal well-being.

Less is more

To safeguard our skin, it’s crucial to reduce exposure to endocrine-disrupting chemicals (EDCs). These substances, often found in cosmetics and household items, mimic natural hormones, disrupting the delicate hormonal balance. Protecting our skin also involves maintaining its barrier – and yes, this includes the often-repeated advice of wearing SPF.

Being vigilant about EDCs means going beyond labels like ‘clean,’ ‘natural,’ ‘organic,’ or ‘non-toxic,’ as they don’t always guarantee safety. You can use those keywords as filters on shopping websites to narrow your choices but remember, it’s the ingredients that truly matter. Knowing what’s in your products is the key to protecting both your skin and hormonal health.

According to the Environmental Working Group, the average woman uses about 12 different products daily, exposing herself to a staggering 168 chemicals. It is facts like these that motivated me to simplify my routine by eliminating unnecessary products. Streamlining your skincare routine by cutting out non-essential products and opting for multi-functional ones – like a single product serving as lipstick, blush, and eyeshadow – not only reduces chemical exposure but also aligns with a hormone-friendly lifestyle. A practical example from our team: a mother who shares her hair care products with her baby, minimizing the number of ingredients she has to ensure are safe. 

Optimize based on your hormones.

Once you have safe products to use, you will also want to know when to use what. Progesterone, a hormone that fluctuates throughout the menstrual cycle and influences oil production in the skin, is higher post-ovulation, during pregnancy, and even in non-menstruating but ovulating phases like breastfeeding. This might necessitate different skincare routines for different times of the month. Keeping track of your hormonal levels, not just your menstrual cycle, can significantly enhance your skincare effectiveness. Similarly, cortisol, known to increase oil production, links stress management directly to skin health.

Related: Hormonal Episodes and Scenes of Chaos

To build your routine, prioritize caring for your skin barrier by using SPF and avoiding UV light exposure. Mitigate exposure to EDCs by being mindful of ingredients such as phthalates, parabens, and fragrances. For more information, consult the EWG Skin Deep database or similar tools like OnSkin and filter by product or ingredient. To optimize your skincare regimen, monitor daily and monthly fluctuations in hormones like cortisol and progesterone. This will establish the feedback loop necessary to remain responsive to your skin’s needs, tracking the effects of your routines on your hormones and vice versa. Remember, skin care is essential for hormonal healthcare, and you deserve both.

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The Power of Nourishment for Healing Postpartum Snack on this.

By Mandela Cocores

The aroma of simmering vegetables and savory spices always fills me with feelings of warmth and love. It’s the language of care passed down from generations in my family. My mother, especially, communicates her affection through a steaming pot of her famous chili or a heaping plate of her signature spaghetti. This tradition became even more profound when I gave birth to my second son during the isolating days of the COVID-19 pandemic. Knowing that I couldn’t enjoy the comfort of her cooking this time due to mandatory quarantine was tough. I had to prioritize not only mine and my children’s health but also my mother’s. Not being able to savor her meals during the years of COVID quarantine was truly heart-wrenching. However, when things started getting safer again, I longed for her to meet my newborn child in person, which thankfully she was able to do.

As my due date approached I searched for online meal delivery services, I was frustrated by the lack of options specifically catering to new mothers and their families. While there were options that existed the available options lacked the vital nutrients I needed for my postpartum recovery journey, and none addressed the preferences of my partner and our older son. I was looking for meals that could take care of all of us, not just me. None of the solutions I found fit what I was looking for.

Soon after the birth of my second son a friend who I have known from childhood who is a private chef dropped off a homemade meal for me and my family, some of the tastiest lasagna I have ever had. This simple act of receiving nourishing food made with love felt like a warm hug – a tangible expression of support in a time of immense physical and emotional change. It hit me, based on this simple compassionate gesture, and based on much Googling for post partum meal delivery services, there was a critical gap to be filled, not just for myself but for countless new mothers navigating the demanding and often isolating early days of motherhood.

This realization became the seed of “what is now” Welcome Home, a meal delivery service designed with love, understanding, and the power of nourishment at its core. We go beyond simply providing delicious meals; we offer holistic support during a particularly vulnerable period for new mothers, supplying them with valuable nutrients to help them gain important nutrients they may have lost during pregnancy and the delivery process.

Science backs the importance of this focus. Studies from organizations such as American Pregnancy Association specifically for “A Faster Postpartum Recovery” show that postpartum recovery demands specific nutrients – high protein for tissue repair, healthy fats for energy production, and fiber for gut health. Welcome Home’s recipes are meticulously crafted to provide these essential nutrients while considering common dietary restrictions such as gluten-free, dairy-free, and sugar-free.

While I look at the science and benefits, I also look at how food is more than just a list of ingredients, food is comfort, connection, and community. With Welcome Home, families receive meals tailored to their needs, freeing up precious time and energy, and allowing mom and dad to be able to focus that energy on baby, it also allows new mothers to prioritize rest and recovery, knowing their loved ones are well-nourished and taken care of.

Creating Welcome Home has meant so much for me as a mother who was in the shoes similar to a lot of these mothers in their journey for finding food options not just for themselves but their families. To be able to share a meal with someone and be able to pour my entire love into their food really warms my heart. Through delivering these meals, I meet many of these mothers, hear their stories, and see their genuine excitement. Welcome Home is more than a business to me; it’s a support group for mothers in similar situations.

Related: Learn How Food Plays a Role in Your Pregnancy + Postpartum Journey

Mandela is a mother of two little boys living and working in Brooklyn, New York. A few weeks before giving birth to my youngest, I realized feeding my family three nourishing meals a day just wouldn’t be possible. So I started looking for meal deliveries that specialized in feeding not just me but my whole crew. To my surprise, there weren’t any. That’s what inspired me to create Welcome Home, my newest baby. Welcome Home gives new and growing families what they need most: nourishment, peace of mind, and more time to do what they love with the people they love. Nothing gives me more joy than feeding people a nourishing meal. Whether it’s a new mom, a sick coworker, or a grieving friend — I love being able to lend support in the language we all speak: food. The thing that always makes my craziest days better is the comfort of a beautiful home-cooked meal. I’m excited to bring mine to your home.

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